Hello Beautyilicious! Take the day off! If you can't today, do it real soon. It's essential to nurture your spirit, by taking care of your body and mind. I am here by, giving you permission to stay in bed all day if you want. You can watch movies and eat ice cream. You can go by what your body tells you it wants. Sometimes it needs to rest and relax. For some, it needs to skydive, it's whatever you like. Many people say, oh...but I have so much to do. But I will tell you, the "stuff" can wait a day. When you keep running around, minds never stopping, you can get worn out. You body gets sick and needs to heal. But you can hit the refresh button, just like on your computer. Recharge yourself, by doing what you like. Live on purpose and that could means going shopping, if that is what you have been wanting to do. Let yourself have a vacation day, once a month. You will thank yourself for it.
Tips:
Think only what you want to think about. Or don't think at all.
Do things that feel good. Treat yourself like you really are on vacation.
Stress, worry, regret, fear, doubt, and guilt are not allowed to come on vacay with you.
Laugh, play, dance, lounge, swim, eat, drink, stretch, and whatever your body likes.
Your kids can eat peanut butter and jelly or cereal. Having a happy parent means more to their health, than what's for dinner one night a month. Or order take-out if you can. Cook if you enjoy it. This is about a state of mind. So even if you can't afford to go on vacation, make yourself have the feeling. Dust will wait for you. Laundry is very patient. Yard work is going to be there tomorrow. It's your life, you make the rules. You get to define how you like to live and what you want to do. By making yourself top priority, you show others, including your kids, how to be happy themselves. Show other the way to be happy, by being happy.
And I did follow my own advice and did this last Thursday. I sat on my sun porch, with a saucy novel, and read for hours. In the afternoon, I even made a fruity cocktail, which is named Liquid Sunshine. Psst...I invented it and it's just Pino Grigio with chopped pineapple, but it's delicious! I did do some laundry, but didn't fold it. You see, sheets that were peed on by little kids cannot wait, but I still had my vacay state of mind. We ordered pizza for dinner and watched a funny movie. The Thursday before, we went to the beach from 1pm to 7pm and we had pizza on the beach for dinner. This is how you make a fabulous life for yourself. You think it up and then create it.
Knowing that how I feel is the most important thing, I take care of myself everyday. When you are aware of your energy and how your vibe is, you have so much more to give. Although, you have to balance that. There is no..."Oh, I'm so sorry I can't help that day" (or do that thing for you). I don't say "I feel so bad..." when I can't do things anymore. You can't be everything to everybody. Especially to be successful and happy, you have to know what to say no to, and what to say yes to. You can tell by the feeling inside, it gives you. You have your answers within. You really are a ROCKSTAR! And Rockstars deserve vacations. And another secret is: You can live in the vacation state of mind all the time. Just by treating yourself with kindness, following your bliss, doing things that make you feel good, and focusing on the positive...is like being on vacation. That sense of freedom is always where, should you choose to accept the mission. Your mission is: TO LOVE YOURSELF UNABASHEDLY. Now....GO! Over and out, Roger!
LOL! Can you tell I have have little kids. ;)
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Saturday, July 21, 2012
Friday, March 9, 2012
Ladies of love, light, & life!
I attended the eWomenNetwork conference in Atlantic City this week. CRAZY CUPCAKES! I was so intimidated at first. I was going to see Lisa Nichols, the best-selling author who was featured in the book, the Secret. My lovely mother had gotten us tickets. I didn't know what to expect, but I got up early and dressed in my sassy sans-kids way, feeling very confident. When I walked in, you could just feel the power of these women. It was a buzz, a confidence, and a truly feminine-loving nature flowing around. We heard lots of amazing women speak, each one giving me a piece of my puzzle, and confirming what was in my heart. In the past, smart, successful, powerful women really intimidated me. I felt that they were better than me. I cowered inside, next to their confidence. The women at this conference welcomed you, with open arms, to share what they know.
As we were asked to share about ourselves, handing out our business cards, I handed out scraps of paper with my name, number, blog, and facebook page on it. Hey, you gotta start somewhere. Every women I met was helpful, supportive, and inspiring. I am still processing all that I heard and experienced that day. If I wrote everything about day, it would be a small book. I really wish I could impart what learned to everyone, because I really can't do it justice with words, but it was beyond transformational. One of the most important things that I want to share is it got me to ask myself more questions and reminded me that I am a ROCKSTAR, as we all are. Don't ever stop believing that!
Having to tell people about myself made me ask, who am I and what do I do? It made me have to adjust and relax my energy into this, which help me build confidence. I am a mother of four. I blog, write fiction, and am still cultivating just exactly what other awesomeness that I am going to do. It was about me telling them what I plan on doing, not showing them until I start making it into a business or making money at it. I know, in my bones, that I am going to be a successful writer, speaker, and more. Writing that, is so much easier than telling a stranger...until now. It made me stretch out of my comfort zone. With each person that I spoke with, was first blown away that I have four kids, like it was twenty-five of them, and believed in me right away, that this was going to happen for me. Many real soul connections were made, as each person really was a teacher and student, to each other. I had to ask myself some hard, personal questions too. Was I caring about what others thought, therefore stopping my own mojo? Was I using my time wisely, sweating over things that don't matter? Was I focusing on what I wanted? Was I afraid to succeed? What was my energy like, when people meet me (confident, open, loving, fun), I hope? Do I feel stuck in any way? What do I see for myself in the future? What steps can I take towards that? What are my intentions? So many more, I am sure, but the idea is always to examine where you are at. From a loving place within yourself, ask yourself questions. And if you need assistance, ask and be open to receive what you need.
There were many laughs and stories shared by the speakers and by each lovely lady that I met. I took many things, as signs from the Universe, confirming that I am right on track. The message echoed throughout was, that there is no competition, we are all unique and a true gift to this world. Keep dreaming big. You can do it! I thank all those women who were cheering myself and everyone on. Marilyn Kleinberg was the organizer and I just love her personality, it's fun and refreshing. I told her that what I loved about the eWomenNetwork Conference is that it was a great mix of business and spiritual energy. Sandra Yancey, the founder of eWomenNetwork is so beautiful and inspiring. She spoke of being a mother and entrepreneur. She told her story about starting her business, empowering us all that we can achieve epic success. Lisa Nichols spoke of having this dream in her belly, that if we have to give birth too, even if no one understands. I felt like she was speaking to me and me alone. She read my heart. She exudes love. If you ever get the chance to see her speak, be prepared to feel a real presence of magic. It wasn't just a talk that she gave, but rather an experience, that I had. I felt emotion well up in my heart, as I teared up.
Even though, I don't know the how's yet, it confirmed deep-down in my soul that I am meant to do that. I want to give talks like that. Speaking so that I may uplift, inspire, empower, and cheer on other people. I want to be an example to others, to teach them what I have learned. I can see it now. I will hand out glitter pom-poms at the door, not to cheer me on, but for them to cheer themselves on. I will step up on that stage and we will have a blast, it will be so fun. I will let my Light shine, leading the way, for those who forgot how awesome they are. I will say, "Here is the way, here is a path, that may be less traveled but you will be so happy you took it. Maybe you have never seen anyone do what you want to do, but maybe that's cause you are a badass pioneer, a rebel maverick, a sparkly firework, on the edge of glory, rockin' on that leading edge." And I will end with: "You are amazing, always remember that. Stand up and cheer for yourselves, ROCKSTARS! Rock & shine, like the brilliant diamond you are. I love you ALL!" I will be up selling my novels and my fun-and-deep, Jennylicious guide to life, and my products too. Dream big, while totally loving life today. xoxo
And Mommy, thank you being the greatest teacher of my life and my biggest supporter. One day, I think I'll be writing a book about you. I'd also like to thank the women that I happen to have their names. The rest of you, thank you, in spirit. And to the people reading this, I send you a big, sparkly, cyber hug! Thank you for reading. Please feel free to share.
Marilyn Kleinberg-www.ewomennetwork.com
Sandra Yancey-www.new.ewomennetwork.com/
Lisa Nichols-lisanichols.com
Kathleen Cashman-www.cashmanconsultingllc.com
Janet Garraty-www.gojanenews.com
Lisa Monahan-www.bridgingenergies.com
Cristi Cook-www.abetterbalancedyou.com
Sabrina Smith-www.ericksplace.org
Sylvia Henderson-www.springboardtraining.com
Lisa Marie Platske-www.upsidethinking.com
Johanna Scheets-johannascheets.myarbonne.com
Stella Collington-eatpaylove.com
Cindy Cipriani-www.clearpathinstitute.com
Emily Morgan-meetemilymorgan.com
Amy Druding-www.permanentmakeupbyamy.net
Donna Andrews-donnaandrewsphotography.com
Shaun Stephenson-www.thecircleoften.ning.com/
Carol Plummer-http://www.ewomennetwork.com/chapterHomePage/chapterHomePage.php?code=montgomery
www.olis-originals.com/
Anne Glenning (My Mom)-http://www.ameripriseadvisors.com/anne.d.glenning/profile/
As we were asked to share about ourselves, handing out our business cards, I handed out scraps of paper with my name, number, blog, and facebook page on it. Hey, you gotta start somewhere. Every women I met was helpful, supportive, and inspiring. I am still processing all that I heard and experienced that day. If I wrote everything about day, it would be a small book. I really wish I could impart what learned to everyone, because I really can't do it justice with words, but it was beyond transformational. One of the most important things that I want to share is it got me to ask myself more questions and reminded me that I am a ROCKSTAR, as we all are. Don't ever stop believing that!
Having to tell people about myself made me ask, who am I and what do I do? It made me have to adjust and relax my energy into this, which help me build confidence. I am a mother of four. I blog, write fiction, and am still cultivating just exactly what other awesomeness that I am going to do. It was about me telling them what I plan on doing, not showing them until I start making it into a business or making money at it. I know, in my bones, that I am going to be a successful writer, speaker, and more. Writing that, is so much easier than telling a stranger...until now. It made me stretch out of my comfort zone. With each person that I spoke with, was first blown away that I have four kids, like it was twenty-five of them, and believed in me right away, that this was going to happen for me. Many real soul connections were made, as each person really was a teacher and student, to each other. I had to ask myself some hard, personal questions too. Was I caring about what others thought, therefore stopping my own mojo? Was I using my time wisely, sweating over things that don't matter? Was I focusing on what I wanted? Was I afraid to succeed? What was my energy like, when people meet me (confident, open, loving, fun), I hope? Do I feel stuck in any way? What do I see for myself in the future? What steps can I take towards that? What are my intentions? So many more, I am sure, but the idea is always to examine where you are at. From a loving place within yourself, ask yourself questions. And if you need assistance, ask and be open to receive what you need.
There were many laughs and stories shared by the speakers and by each lovely lady that I met. I took many things, as signs from the Universe, confirming that I am right on track. The message echoed throughout was, that there is no competition, we are all unique and a true gift to this world. Keep dreaming big. You can do it! I thank all those women who were cheering myself and everyone on. Marilyn Kleinberg was the organizer and I just love her personality, it's fun and refreshing. I told her that what I loved about the eWomenNetwork Conference is that it was a great mix of business and spiritual energy. Sandra Yancey, the founder of eWomenNetwork is so beautiful and inspiring. She spoke of being a mother and entrepreneur. She told her story about starting her business, empowering us all that we can achieve epic success. Lisa Nichols spoke of having this dream in her belly, that if we have to give birth too, even if no one understands. I felt like she was speaking to me and me alone. She read my heart. She exudes love. If you ever get the chance to see her speak, be prepared to feel a real presence of magic. It wasn't just a talk that she gave, but rather an experience, that I had. I felt emotion well up in my heart, as I teared up.
Even though, I don't know the how's yet, it confirmed deep-down in my soul that I am meant to do that. I want to give talks like that. Speaking so that I may uplift, inspire, empower, and cheer on other people. I want to be an example to others, to teach them what I have learned. I can see it now. I will hand out glitter pom-poms at the door, not to cheer me on, but for them to cheer themselves on. I will step up on that stage and we will have a blast, it will be so fun. I will let my Light shine, leading the way, for those who forgot how awesome they are. I will say, "Here is the way, here is a path, that may be less traveled but you will be so happy you took it. Maybe you have never seen anyone do what you want to do, but maybe that's cause you are a badass pioneer, a rebel maverick, a sparkly firework, on the edge of glory, rockin' on that leading edge." And I will end with: "You are amazing, always remember that. Stand up and cheer for yourselves, ROCKSTARS! Rock & shine, like the brilliant diamond you are. I love you ALL!" I will be up selling my novels and my fun-and-deep, Jennylicious guide to life, and my products too. Dream big, while totally loving life today. xoxo
And Mommy, thank you being the greatest teacher of my life and my biggest supporter. One day, I think I'll be writing a book about you. I'd also like to thank the women that I happen to have their names. The rest of you, thank you, in spirit. And to the people reading this, I send you a big, sparkly, cyber hug! Thank you for reading. Please feel free to share.
Marilyn Kleinberg-www.ewomennetwork.com
Sandra Yancey-www.new.ewomennetwork.com/
Lisa Nichols-lisanichols.com
Kathleen Cashman-www.cashmanconsultingllc.com
Janet Garraty-www.gojanenews.com
Lisa Monahan-www.bridgingenergies.com
Cristi Cook-www.abetterbalancedyou.com
Sabrina Smith-www.ericksplace.org
Sylvia Henderson-www.springboardtraining.com
Lisa Marie Platske-www.upsidethinking.com
Johanna Scheets-johannascheets.myarbonne.com
Stella Collington-eatpaylove.com
Cindy Cipriani-www.clearpathinstitute.com
Emily Morgan-meetemilymorgan.com
Amy Druding-www.permanentmakeupbyamy.net
Donna Andrews-donnaandrewsphotography.com
Shaun Stephenson-www.thecircleoften.ning.com/
Carol Plummer-http://www.ewomennetwork.com/chapterHomePage/chapterHomePage.php?code=montgomery
www.olis-originals.com/
Anne Glenning (My Mom)-http://www.ameripriseadvisors.com/anne.d.glenning/profile/
Thursday, March 1, 2012
A bout of self doubt makes you pout!
Self-doubt is a tricky one, it pretends to be your friend at first. Beware! It creeps in slowly. It started out telling me, "You have so much going on, with the kids, you just don't have time to write." Sound innocent. But then it leads to, you just don't have what it takes to manage it all...you just don't have what it takes. I was having self-doubt rock my confidence. I knew inside though, that this really wasn't real. I waited it out. I allowed the blah feelings to surface, on and off, for at least a week. It was no fun at times, but I knew it was what was no longer served me, coming up to let it go. You see, I have changed the way I think, but in the past, self-doubt was the voice I always heard in my head. So I recognized it, trying to trick me with it's...what makes you so special? What makes you think you can succeed? How can you make your dreams come true? Be realistic. You can't have a toned body, you have four kids. You are not smart enough. All this stuff I use to believe about myself, secretly. It was almost comical, to see the thoughts come up. I was thinking, where in the hell did that come from? And of course,with the Law of Attraction, because I was doubting myself, I would draw conversations, where I felt like I had to explain myself. It was exhausting. I wanted to call my Mom, sister, or friends to look for validation. In the past, I would have asked for help, but then I would have not really gotten to the other side of this. I share this with you, because I always learn so much from others' life experiences.
And WOW, do I love being back to me. Where I can totally see this in Oprah's magazine, I could see myself being a featured columnist/blogger. I dream big, I believe that anything is possible for me. I believe in myself and that is really all that matters to me. Others do not have to believe in me, understand me, validate me. It is not their job. And when I allow myself to be defined by others, when they like me, or agree with me, I am high up on the roller coaster. When they don't agree, or like me, I am at the bottom. That is a crazy way to live. I do not choose that anymore. What I learned from this latest lesson, is that when self-doubt tricks you, hold tight, it's okay. You are not eternally flawed or broken. Choose to just hold on and trust.
I had an "I Don't Knowism" sitch going on. I had a case of "Little-old-me syndrome" and a bout of "Not Enoughness." I felt like I was on the hamster wheel and my mind was racing. With all this stirred up, I had to think about everything I believe, know, feel, have done. It was a big letting go of energy and now there is a newness. Whew! When you are aware and observe yourself and your thoughts, miracles can really happen. You can always change how you think. But like what happened to me, hiccups along the way, help move you along. When you are getting in shape physically, you don't expect to have six-pack abs in one day, so be easy on yourself. You can consciously make changes on how you think, but subconsciously you have lots of crappy thinking from the past in there. Good new is that repetition causes changes to the conscious, so keep going, affirmations, telling a new story of your life, positive thinking, appreciating your life, and feeling good. You reprogram yourself, you work out the kinks, with your vibration on continual basis. Law of attraction in action. People may think it's easy for me, I make it look easy sometimes. I was good at faking how I really felt and thought. I was that happy face behind the pain type gal. Now I am I the happy face behind the happy. Just ask my kids. I annoy the crap out of my teenage daughter, which I will admit is funny. I choose happy. I had enough of feeling bad, this is way more fun. Being authentic and true to myself, I am sharing what a beautiful thing my hiccup was.
I Don't Knowism: I had this feeling that I could not shake. It was self-doubt making me think that I didn't know anything. That I didn't know how to do anything. This can feel like you are lost. You are not, you are on your path, and you get to choose your direction. You are not struck, if you don't label it as that. I momentarily thought that I had not made an progress in the past year, which I knew was not true. It is not about the physical stuff, as much as the foundation, that I have built inside of me. What I knew was I am happier than I was last year, clearer in my knowing, and more confident than ever. I had already learned that when I confront old feelings, or insecurities, whatever the negative is...that I am so much freer and feel so much more expansive afterwards. I don't avoid how I feel, or else I can't change it. I just sat with the feeling and trusted my inner knowing. It is okay to not have all the answers. I did ask myself, "What do I know?" "Who am I?" "What do I want?" I asked my higher self and waited for the wisdom and insight to come. And now that I am back in the feeling good business, all the wisdom and insights came flooding to me. Oh yeah! I know I am a ROCKSTAR of my life! I have all the knowing inside of me. We all do.
Little-old-me syndrome: Lil' old me is ordinary, mediocre, and the nothing is special about me, thinking. Look at everyone else, they are amazing and me, not so much. I felt like I was in competition with everyone. I realized that when you are feeling the low vibe, you feel lack, and you are in competition, comparing yourself to others. Self doubt was telling me that Little-old-me can't be a successful writer, get in better shape, give inspirational talks, keep making my Jennylicious happy raps, and achieve all that I dream and desire. Well, watch me, self-doubt! You do not have to believe in me, you never did. You were the one who egged me on in making bad choices in the past, making me believe that I was little-old-me. But you know what, I am so glad you did, because it makes getting here, to this fabulous place, even more delicious. I felt that fleeting temptation to go back to playing small, but self-doubt, I hate to tell you, the train has left the station. I can't go back. Thank God! So when others did not think I was the greatest thing, since sliced bread, you would tell me "they are idiots, what do they know?" But really, you loved it. You loved me playing small, being little-old-me, where you could be in charge. You can't trick me though, I am confident now, to the core. When I was having a bout of self-doubt, I affirmed: I am confident in all areas of my life. Cause sometimes you gotta fake it, til you make it, til' you get over the hump. And you will get there.
Not Enoughness: This part is my least favorite and it's the biggie for me. It stirs the pot the most, it's what led me to an eating disorder in my teens, to try to be thin enough. It had worthiness and self-esteem issues coming up. This turned out to be such a gem, of a lesson for me. I was already feeling like I did not have the answers I thought I did, my whole energy internally was little-old-me, and not thinking I was good enough was so uncomfortable and foreign to me nowadays. I refused to really, truly, believe this drama, but it was pretty wild. I had this life review thing going on, thinking about the past, which really reminded me that I am a totally different person now. Even in a bad moment, I don't hate myself. Self-doubt told me that I sucked at parenting, cleaning, organizing, writing, being me, life, and whatever else it could bring up. I tried to think why I was enough. I decided that wasn't going to work at that moment. I just had to say: I am enough. The fog was clearing and clarity was like a bright blue sky, after a storm. The truth is none of it mattered whether I was good at anything, it is how I felt about myself. And that determines everything for me. It doesn't matter whether others think I am good enough at whatever, if I don't. Also, if others don't think I am good enough, it doesn't matter either. I run my own own show, it's about me living my life. They can live theirs. It's perfect. And I know that I am more than good enough, I'm me. And I am success at me. Everything else, really is the icing on the cake. So enough is enough, I love myself even more now. I love being me. And in me, being real, sharing what I learn, I am hoping others benefit too. My wish is for all to feel as good as I do, confident and sure. Always onward and upward. Holla if you're with me. Whoot! Whoot! ;)
And WOW, do I love being back to me. Where I can totally see this in Oprah's magazine, I could see myself being a featured columnist/blogger. I dream big, I believe that anything is possible for me. I believe in myself and that is really all that matters to me. Others do not have to believe in me, understand me, validate me. It is not their job. And when I allow myself to be defined by others, when they like me, or agree with me, I am high up on the roller coaster. When they don't agree, or like me, I am at the bottom. That is a crazy way to live. I do not choose that anymore. What I learned from this latest lesson, is that when self-doubt tricks you, hold tight, it's okay. You are not eternally flawed or broken. Choose to just hold on and trust.
I had an "I Don't Knowism" sitch going on. I had a case of "Little-old-me syndrome" and a bout of "Not Enoughness." I felt like I was on the hamster wheel and my mind was racing. With all this stirred up, I had to think about everything I believe, know, feel, have done. It was a big letting go of energy and now there is a newness. Whew! When you are aware and observe yourself and your thoughts, miracles can really happen. You can always change how you think. But like what happened to me, hiccups along the way, help move you along. When you are getting in shape physically, you don't expect to have six-pack abs in one day, so be easy on yourself. You can consciously make changes on how you think, but subconsciously you have lots of crappy thinking from the past in there. Good new is that repetition causes changes to the conscious, so keep going, affirmations, telling a new story of your life, positive thinking, appreciating your life, and feeling good. You reprogram yourself, you work out the kinks, with your vibration on continual basis. Law of attraction in action. People may think it's easy for me, I make it look easy sometimes. I was good at faking how I really felt and thought. I was that happy face behind the pain type gal. Now I am I the happy face behind the happy. Just ask my kids. I annoy the crap out of my teenage daughter, which I will admit is funny. I choose happy. I had enough of feeling bad, this is way more fun. Being authentic and true to myself, I am sharing what a beautiful thing my hiccup was.
I Don't Knowism: I had this feeling that I could not shake. It was self-doubt making me think that I didn't know anything. That I didn't know how to do anything. This can feel like you are lost. You are not, you are on your path, and you get to choose your direction. You are not struck, if you don't label it as that. I momentarily thought that I had not made an progress in the past year, which I knew was not true. It is not about the physical stuff, as much as the foundation, that I have built inside of me. What I knew was I am happier than I was last year, clearer in my knowing, and more confident than ever. I had already learned that when I confront old feelings, or insecurities, whatever the negative is...that I am so much freer and feel so much more expansive afterwards. I don't avoid how I feel, or else I can't change it. I just sat with the feeling and trusted my inner knowing. It is okay to not have all the answers. I did ask myself, "What do I know?" "Who am I?" "What do I want?" I asked my higher self and waited for the wisdom and insight to come. And now that I am back in the feeling good business, all the wisdom and insights came flooding to me. Oh yeah! I know I am a ROCKSTAR of my life! I have all the knowing inside of me. We all do.
Little-old-me syndrome: Lil' old me is ordinary, mediocre, and the nothing is special about me, thinking. Look at everyone else, they are amazing and me, not so much. I felt like I was in competition with everyone. I realized that when you are feeling the low vibe, you feel lack, and you are in competition, comparing yourself to others. Self doubt was telling me that Little-old-me can't be a successful writer, get in better shape, give inspirational talks, keep making my Jennylicious happy raps, and achieve all that I dream and desire. Well, watch me, self-doubt! You do not have to believe in me, you never did. You were the one who egged me on in making bad choices in the past, making me believe that I was little-old-me. But you know what, I am so glad you did, because it makes getting here, to this fabulous place, even more delicious. I felt that fleeting temptation to go back to playing small, but self-doubt, I hate to tell you, the train has left the station. I can't go back. Thank God! So when others did not think I was the greatest thing, since sliced bread, you would tell me "they are idiots, what do they know?" But really, you loved it. You loved me playing small, being little-old-me, where you could be in charge. You can't trick me though, I am confident now, to the core. When I was having a bout of self-doubt, I affirmed: I am confident in all areas of my life. Cause sometimes you gotta fake it, til you make it, til' you get over the hump. And you will get there.
Not Enoughness: This part is my least favorite and it's the biggie for me. It stirs the pot the most, it's what led me to an eating disorder in my teens, to try to be thin enough. It had worthiness and self-esteem issues coming up. This turned out to be such a gem, of a lesson for me. I was already feeling like I did not have the answers I thought I did, my whole energy internally was little-old-me, and not thinking I was good enough was so uncomfortable and foreign to me nowadays. I refused to really, truly, believe this drama, but it was pretty wild. I had this life review thing going on, thinking about the past, which really reminded me that I am a totally different person now. Even in a bad moment, I don't hate myself. Self-doubt told me that I sucked at parenting, cleaning, organizing, writing, being me, life, and whatever else it could bring up. I tried to think why I was enough. I decided that wasn't going to work at that moment. I just had to say: I am enough. The fog was clearing and clarity was like a bright blue sky, after a storm. The truth is none of it mattered whether I was good at anything, it is how I felt about myself. And that determines everything for me. It doesn't matter whether others think I am good enough at whatever, if I don't. Also, if others don't think I am good enough, it doesn't matter either. I run my own own show, it's about me living my life. They can live theirs. It's perfect. And I know that I am more than good enough, I'm me. And I am success at me. Everything else, really is the icing on the cake. So enough is enough, I love myself even more now. I love being me. And in me, being real, sharing what I learn, I am hoping others benefit too. My wish is for all to feel as good as I do, confident and sure. Always onward and upward. Holla if you're with me. Whoot! Whoot! ;)
Saturday, January 21, 2012
C what I'm talkin' about!
I learn a lot from my children. I learn about myself in parenting them. I am blessed to have four kids, who keep me on my toes, and being me lots of joy. I have one daughter, McKayla, a fourteen year old, in her first year of high school. I have three sons, Aidan (10-5th grade), Finnegan (almost 5-preschool) and Seamus (2 yrs old today). I deal with different personalities and different ages, which all have their awesome parts and their...well, their opportunities for me to grow. I cannot control any of them, nor would I want to, except when they are bad. LOL! I see those places where I get frustrated and want to control, as a way for me to really let go. It really changes your state of mind. I wanted to share some of what I've been learning and realizing for myself. The Crappy C's and the Cool C's.
Crappy C's
Compare: Never compare yourself to others. It's a dumb game that you will lose to someone, in some area. I want my kids to learn that you really are running your OWN race, not against someone else. Ahhh...in my twenties, I compared myself to every other mother. This is the biggest energy drain. Just do YOU, do YOU good, and leave everyone else out of it. When you really work on loving yourself, you value yourself more, and don't need to make others, better or worse, than you. You realize you are free, to be you, and they are free, to be them.
Compete: When you are focused on how well someone else is doing, it may momentarily give you a boost to get your butt in gear, but then what...they go ahead of you, or someone else now is, and then you are back to square one. Let yourself shine, in your own way, doing your best and you will be happy because you are enjoying YOUR journey. I really do wish everyone well and that they have success, there is plenty to go around. I want my kids to realize that compare & compete are an evil duo, not to be messed with.
Control: My kids are so good at providing me with material to learn this one. Whether it is them, not listening/attitude/being kids, or your neighbor, brother, partner, friend, whoever, you CANNOT control anyone. When you are trying to force it, see what happens, when you let go. One of my sanity savers is sending Light & Love to whoever and it centers me. If I act like an ass and yell, I remind myself, that while that yields immediate results, in the process I felt bad. So what do I want...to feel good, or control/get my way/let others have the key to my happiness.
Complain: Where you ever listening to someone complain and thinking, I wish they would shut the hell up. Well, that's what you sound like you complain. It doesn't solve anything. Maybe for some, they get people to change behaviors, but going about it in a positive way, makes you feel a heck of a lot better, in the process. And if you observe people, you will see the Law of Attraction at work, in that if they constantly complain, they attract more to complain about. I have heard people complain about things, that I thought were good, it's all perspective. Like grocery shopping, I love having a variety to choose from and the money to pay for them. That makes it a totally different experience for me. It's the same with exercise and cooking, you can find they joy, cause why live on minute of your life, not trying to make the best of it.
Cool C's (Could be called Conscious C's also)
Cultivate: Create new way of thinking, more positive thoughts and lots of appreciation. New habits like meditation (one of the best things I ever did), a gratitude journal, and there are a million books of self-help, positive thinking, spirituality that can really change your life. Even if you replace some TV shows with funnier ones or really a juicy novel, or whatever brings you joy at the end of your day. Remember you can change your life by cultivating a new version of it. In my upbeat attitude, I show my kids how to cultivate a way of life.
Choose: We have many choices we take for granted. We get to choose what we eat, what we wear, what we read, watch on TV, who we hang out with, and what we think. Be choosy about your thoughts, Don't let a bunch of negative garbage play on a constant loop in your head. OK, so your boss is an ass, change jobs or change your attitude about him. You get to choose how you think, and if you don't like your negative thinking, cause you realize it's not working anymore, than you can choose to think positively. I teach my kids, that each one of us, can always choose differently, in each moment. And if you mess up, there is always next time.
Clarity: With each interaction we have, everything we see, read, hear we make judgements. We don't have to judge them as good or bad, but by rather if it feels good to us, resonates with us, works for us. We gain clarity everyday. I like that, I'd like more of that, I LOVE that! When we can detach a little and not take everything personally, we can see things much clearer. For me, clarity is not about figuring out everything, but a vibrational, spiritual, energy thing. When something makes my heart sing, touches my soul, and opens my mind more I gain so much clarity. I teach my kids that they make up their own minds and that it is up to each one of us, to decide what we believe. I can't give them or anyone clarity, I wouldn't wnat to rob them of their joyful journey.
Care: Take care of yourself. Take baths, move your body, eat delicious things, feed your soul with things that delight you. Care about how you feel about you. My message is always~LOVE YOURSELF! And you are so much more loving to everyone, when you have taken care of yourself. Don't expect yourself to be perfect and get down on yourself. Always forgive yourself for mistakes, the past is done, and now move forward. Only dwell on the positive. Every time I say I love you to my kids, I am building their self-esteem. I want them to know they are ROCKSTARS. How I treat myself, is what they learn about how to treat themselves. So, if you leave dishes in the sink, your playroom doesn't get leaned one day, you forgot it was show-and-tell day at school...oh well. It is OK. Feeling guilty is a waste, life is to be lived!
My goal everyday is to uplift and inspire, especially through my writing and blogging. I love to spread joy and remind others to love themselves. I aim to raise my vibration and deepen my connection to God/Source/Universe and have fun! You get to choose what works for you, isn't that awesome! Muah to ALL!
Crappy C's
Compare: Never compare yourself to others. It's a dumb game that you will lose to someone, in some area. I want my kids to learn that you really are running your OWN race, not against someone else. Ahhh...in my twenties, I compared myself to every other mother. This is the biggest energy drain. Just do YOU, do YOU good, and leave everyone else out of it. When you really work on loving yourself, you value yourself more, and don't need to make others, better or worse, than you. You realize you are free, to be you, and they are free, to be them.
Compete: When you are focused on how well someone else is doing, it may momentarily give you a boost to get your butt in gear, but then what...they go ahead of you, or someone else now is, and then you are back to square one. Let yourself shine, in your own way, doing your best and you will be happy because you are enjoying YOUR journey. I really do wish everyone well and that they have success, there is plenty to go around. I want my kids to realize that compare & compete are an evil duo, not to be messed with.
Control: My kids are so good at providing me with material to learn this one. Whether it is them, not listening/attitude/being kids, or your neighbor, brother, partner, friend, whoever, you CANNOT control anyone. When you are trying to force it, see what happens, when you let go. One of my sanity savers is sending Light & Love to whoever and it centers me. If I act like an ass and yell, I remind myself, that while that yields immediate results, in the process I felt bad. So what do I want...to feel good, or control/get my way/let others have the key to my happiness.
Complain: Where you ever listening to someone complain and thinking, I wish they would shut the hell up. Well, that's what you sound like you complain. It doesn't solve anything. Maybe for some, they get people to change behaviors, but going about it in a positive way, makes you feel a heck of a lot better, in the process. And if you observe people, you will see the Law of Attraction at work, in that if they constantly complain, they attract more to complain about. I have heard people complain about things, that I thought were good, it's all perspective. Like grocery shopping, I love having a variety to choose from and the money to pay for them. That makes it a totally different experience for me. It's the same with exercise and cooking, you can find they joy, cause why live on minute of your life, not trying to make the best of it.
Cool C's (Could be called Conscious C's also)
Cultivate: Create new way of thinking, more positive thoughts and lots of appreciation. New habits like meditation (one of the best things I ever did), a gratitude journal, and there are a million books of self-help, positive thinking, spirituality that can really change your life. Even if you replace some TV shows with funnier ones or really a juicy novel, or whatever brings you joy at the end of your day. Remember you can change your life by cultivating a new version of it. In my upbeat attitude, I show my kids how to cultivate a way of life.
Choose: We have many choices we take for granted. We get to choose what we eat, what we wear, what we read, watch on TV, who we hang out with, and what we think. Be choosy about your thoughts, Don't let a bunch of negative garbage play on a constant loop in your head. OK, so your boss is an ass, change jobs or change your attitude about him. You get to choose how you think, and if you don't like your negative thinking, cause you realize it's not working anymore, than you can choose to think positively. I teach my kids, that each one of us, can always choose differently, in each moment. And if you mess up, there is always next time.
Clarity: With each interaction we have, everything we see, read, hear we make judgements. We don't have to judge them as good or bad, but by rather if it feels good to us, resonates with us, works for us. We gain clarity everyday. I like that, I'd like more of that, I LOVE that! When we can detach a little and not take everything personally, we can see things much clearer. For me, clarity is not about figuring out everything, but a vibrational, spiritual, energy thing. When something makes my heart sing, touches my soul, and opens my mind more I gain so much clarity. I teach my kids that they make up their own minds and that it is up to each one of us, to decide what we believe. I can't give them or anyone clarity, I wouldn't wnat to rob them of their joyful journey.
Care: Take care of yourself. Take baths, move your body, eat delicious things, feed your soul with things that delight you. Care about how you feel about you. My message is always~LOVE YOURSELF! And you are so much more loving to everyone, when you have taken care of yourself. Don't expect yourself to be perfect and get down on yourself. Always forgive yourself for mistakes, the past is done, and now move forward. Only dwell on the positive. Every time I say I love you to my kids, I am building their self-esteem. I want them to know they are ROCKSTARS. How I treat myself, is what they learn about how to treat themselves. So, if you leave dishes in the sink, your playroom doesn't get leaned one day, you forgot it was show-and-tell day at school...oh well. It is OK. Feeling guilty is a waste, life is to be lived!
My goal everyday is to uplift and inspire, especially through my writing and blogging. I love to spread joy and remind others to love themselves. I aim to raise my vibration and deepen my connection to God/Source/Universe and have fun! You get to choose what works for you, isn't that awesome! Muah to ALL!
Friday, December 2, 2011
You got this, Girl!
I was on the treadmill yesterday and I was thinking about how excited I am about my life. I am going to be choosing a cover design for my book this weekend. I'm doing it! I live consciously, training myself to think positively and keep my vibrations high. I have no room for doubt, if I want to live the life I see myself living. Can I speak on stage? Hell yeah! Can I write more delicious fiction? Sure can! Do I have distinct outlook that would make a great self-improvement book? Of course. If you think that there is nothing special about you, or that there are so many writers out there, why bother...you have sealed your fate. You gotta go for it. Even if you don't know exactly what that is, dwell in the possibilities and daydream about what you LOVE. There are little signs and nudges you'll get from the Universe. I don't know exactly know if it was my inner being/soul, talking to Jennylicious, or vice versa. But we all talk to ourselves internally, just by our train of thinking. If you vocalized what you thought, you may see a subconscious pattern. You can always start telling yourself nice things, which is why I will share what I told myself. It went like this:
You got this, Girl. Success is knockin' at your door and you are ready. You have what it takes. You're a rockstar! You just gotta be true to you and stay centered. You really can't care what anyone thinks, good or bad, or else you won't be at your full potential. Stay in your zone, create from there and others will be inspired. If you go in their zone, you get mixed up in their opinions. Come on, you feel it. You know you are special and it's time to shine, showing others how they can do it to. Just keep loving yourself. You know you are good enough and worthy. You've done the work, you studied the Law of Attraction, you've let go of limited beliefs, you have made your high-good-fab-vibes your life. You created a new you, every day, perfecting your thinking and attitude. This is gonna be awesome! You are going to rock this! It's gonna be fun! Thank you, Universe. I just love you. Thank you me, my beautiful family, my parents, sister, friends, trees, life, chocolate, Christmas... I can't even remember what else because I was caught up in the moment. Appreciation is powerful. (I love a good pep talk-YAY me!) * Why not try it yourself?
So naysayers, haters, doubters, pessimists, need not bother...I believe in me and that is all that every matters. And people love and cheer me on anyway. It's just sometimes people mean well, they just don't want you to aim for the sky, sitting your bar high, dreaming big. Anyone who has achieved big things has started with an idea, a thought, a concept that was not real yet. It was not born yet, it had to be created. I do not believe in luck. We attract what we expect. If we embody success, prosperity, creativity, confidence, WATCH OUT WORLD! Tip: You can always talk yourself out of fear or doubt. You do not have to believe every random thought that comes in your head.
I could write every minute, of every day, but get nowhere. What it takes, on a thinking level, is a positive attitude. Check! Step by step, everyday, I am closer to my goals, BUT I live in the now. Love right now to make your future bright. Start listing what you like bout life, even the littlest things. Your outlook will transform and you will see things differently. GO YOU!
You got this, Girl. Success is knockin' at your door and you are ready. You have what it takes. You're a rockstar! You just gotta be true to you and stay centered. You really can't care what anyone thinks, good or bad, or else you won't be at your full potential. Stay in your zone, create from there and others will be inspired. If you go in their zone, you get mixed up in their opinions. Come on, you feel it. You know you are special and it's time to shine, showing others how they can do it to. Just keep loving yourself. You know you are good enough and worthy. You've done the work, you studied the Law of Attraction, you've let go of limited beliefs, you have made your high-good-fab-vibes your life. You created a new you, every day, perfecting your thinking and attitude. This is gonna be awesome! You are going to rock this! It's gonna be fun! Thank you, Universe. I just love you. Thank you me, my beautiful family, my parents, sister, friends, trees, life, chocolate, Christmas... I can't even remember what else because I was caught up in the moment. Appreciation is powerful. (I love a good pep talk-YAY me!) * Why not try it yourself?
So naysayers, haters, doubters, pessimists, need not bother...I believe in me and that is all that every matters. And people love and cheer me on anyway. It's just sometimes people mean well, they just don't want you to aim for the sky, sitting your bar high, dreaming big. Anyone who has achieved big things has started with an idea, a thought, a concept that was not real yet. It was not born yet, it had to be created. I do not believe in luck. We attract what we expect. If we embody success, prosperity, creativity, confidence, WATCH OUT WORLD! Tip: You can always talk yourself out of fear or doubt. You do not have to believe every random thought that comes in your head.
I could write every minute, of every day, but get nowhere. What it takes, on a thinking level, is a positive attitude. Check! Step by step, everyday, I am closer to my goals, BUT I live in the now. Love right now to make your future bright. Start listing what you like bout life, even the littlest things. Your outlook will transform and you will see things differently. GO YOU!
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
I ♥ ME!
Traditionally, in America, we give thanks for our family and our many blessings on THANKSGIVING. I decided to rebel and post as my facebook status, that I am thankful for myself. I really am. I tell my family how much I appreciate them daily. I am thankful for everything (my kids, hubby, parents, sister, friends, home, cars, food in my fridge, and all the wonderful things in my life.) I think that already with my youngest, who will be two in January, I have said, " I love you" a billizion times. Now back to me. LOL. Here's why it is so important, in my experience to make self-love the most important.
I was a young mom, of twenty, and I fell in love with my little princess. But as I went through my twenties, issues I never dealt with, like loving myself, made it difficult for me to unconditionally love. I ate myself silly for a while and did not like how my body was. I lost a lot of weight, which was great for my ego, for a while. I still did not like myself or feel good enough. I would want good things to happen for me, but I would beat the hell out of myself internally, for my mistakes. I did not think I deserved great things, on this unconscious level. I compare myself to other mothers and did not feel I measured up in many ways. I judged myself all the time. I wanted to be happy, I just thought it would be after external things changed. A really funny one is, thinking if your kids do not talk back, you would be happy. Way to give your power away. Enough with the past, fast forward to now. I did a lot of focusing on positive thinking, Law of Attraction, studying spirituality. I bloomed into the best version of myself.
Now, I love myself. I love who I have become. I love everything about myself. I just get better and better. I get smarter and more creative, as I let myself be true to me. I open my heart more and more, judging less, having more fun every day. I am a brilliant writer. I get hotter, sexier, more beautiful, as I let how I feel about myself, the most important thing. I love my freckles, my angel kisses! I love my gorgeous red hair, my bright blue eyes, and my pouty lips. I love my curves, the strong muscles,and my 5'0 frame. I love every cell of my body, in the magnificent vessel it is. I love that this body has nurtured four healthy babies, given birth to them, and then nourished them when they were born. I love my ability to change, to grow, to adapt, and ultimately shine. I appreciate that I am a Divine spark in this amazing body. I am going to live this life to the fullest, embracing all the deliciousness there is. I am such a rockstar. I am the bee's knees, the cat's meow. I am so proud of who I am. This true self-love comes from your spirit, not your ego.
Why not think you are the greatest thing in this Universe? Everyone should. There is no competition. We can all be #1 in our lives. When you really love yourself, you set boundaries. You teach people how to treat you. It's really about your energy though. People can feel your self-love and confidence and will treat you differently. When you love yourself, you give, with no strings attached. You don't need anyone to validate you, or act a certain way to make you happy. Everyone on the planet can tell you how great you are, but it would not matter, if you did not believe it. And what a waste of a amazing life, to not love yourself. Guilt, doubt, fear, regret, judgement, & negativity have to be evicted out of your brain. You are so worth it.
Some tasty tips:
~Affirmations. Post them everywhere and repeat them aloud to yourself. After a while, that is what is running in your head, that kind, loving voice.
~Follow your dreams. Find what makes you happy and go for it. Do things, surround yourself with, find things that bring you joy.
~Think positively about life. Give yourself a break from judging yourself and others. Opening your mind and heart is freeing.
~Appreciate the good in your life. It feels great to focus on that. Take it in. Know you are worth it, you deserve it.
~Decide that you change the way you think. Your thoughts are not stuck forever in your head. You can change your mind, in any moment. Isn't that reassuring?
I am thankful for all you read my blogs and just for people in general. There are just so many awesome people out there. Be thankful for yourself. Say, I LOVE ME! Lovies to ALL!
I was a young mom, of twenty, and I fell in love with my little princess. But as I went through my twenties, issues I never dealt with, like loving myself, made it difficult for me to unconditionally love. I ate myself silly for a while and did not like how my body was. I lost a lot of weight, which was great for my ego, for a while. I still did not like myself or feel good enough. I would want good things to happen for me, but I would beat the hell out of myself internally, for my mistakes. I did not think I deserved great things, on this unconscious level. I compare myself to other mothers and did not feel I measured up in many ways. I judged myself all the time. I wanted to be happy, I just thought it would be after external things changed. A really funny one is, thinking if your kids do not talk back, you would be happy. Way to give your power away. Enough with the past, fast forward to now. I did a lot of focusing on positive thinking, Law of Attraction, studying spirituality. I bloomed into the best version of myself.
Now, I love myself. I love who I have become. I love everything about myself. I just get better and better. I get smarter and more creative, as I let myself be true to me. I open my heart more and more, judging less, having more fun every day. I am a brilliant writer. I get hotter, sexier, more beautiful, as I let how I feel about myself, the most important thing. I love my freckles, my angel kisses! I love my gorgeous red hair, my bright blue eyes, and my pouty lips. I love my curves, the strong muscles,and my 5'0 frame. I love every cell of my body, in the magnificent vessel it is. I love that this body has nurtured four healthy babies, given birth to them, and then nourished them when they were born. I love my ability to change, to grow, to adapt, and ultimately shine. I appreciate that I am a Divine spark in this amazing body. I am going to live this life to the fullest, embracing all the deliciousness there is. I am such a rockstar. I am the bee's knees, the cat's meow. I am so proud of who I am. This true self-love comes from your spirit, not your ego.
Why not think you are the greatest thing in this Universe? Everyone should. There is no competition. We can all be #1 in our lives. When you really love yourself, you set boundaries. You teach people how to treat you. It's really about your energy though. People can feel your self-love and confidence and will treat you differently. When you love yourself, you give, with no strings attached. You don't need anyone to validate you, or act a certain way to make you happy. Everyone on the planet can tell you how great you are, but it would not matter, if you did not believe it. And what a waste of a amazing life, to not love yourself. Guilt, doubt, fear, regret, judgement, & negativity have to be evicted out of your brain. You are so worth it.
Some tasty tips:
~Affirmations. Post them everywhere and repeat them aloud to yourself. After a while, that is what is running in your head, that kind, loving voice.
~Follow your dreams. Find what makes you happy and go for it. Do things, surround yourself with, find things that bring you joy.
~Think positively about life. Give yourself a break from judging yourself and others. Opening your mind and heart is freeing.
~Appreciate the good in your life. It feels great to focus on that. Take it in. Know you are worth it, you deserve it.
~Decide that you change the way you think. Your thoughts are not stuck forever in your head. You can change your mind, in any moment. Isn't that reassuring?
I am thankful for all you read my blogs and just for people in general. There are just so many awesome people out there. Be thankful for yourself. Say, I LOVE ME! Lovies to ALL!
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