I share these negative comments from two of my Jennylicious youtube videos, because I found some great lessons from them. On my video, "Shake your biscuit," This person commented: I feel bad for ur children... Having a mom who doesn't kno how to act like an adult, grow up please!
And on my video,"I'm so pretty," she commented: I'm a girl, and even think ugly girls shouldn't make videos like this. Just saying.... Freedom of speech.
Interesting, huh? When I first checked my email and saw this, I cringed...a mean comment doesn't feel good. Oh, but it does, after you see that it is not about you, it's about them. One of the greatest lessons is to not take things personally, which is definitely a lot easier when it is a stranger.
First of all, I could delete it. But I won't. I am not embarrassed. I know who I am. I responded to her in a kind manner. Her opinion is through her lens she views the world with. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a really great Mom, and HELL YEAH, I am silly. I am never growing up and I don't care what anyone thinks of that. Being kid-like and also being a responsible parent is what I am. As for the second video, I guess she is saying I am ugly. Which is fine. I know I am beautiful and that is all that matters. She doesn't have a picture up, but I hope she feels beautiful and that she loves herself. When you truly love yourself, you don't need to comment mean things, to hurt other people. You wish everyone the best.
Plus, I did not come here to be liked, I came here to be ME. It's easy to retreat when someone doesn't like your video, your book, your painting, your photography, your music, or whatever. It makes you reexamine why you are doing it. It you are making it so that EVERYONE likes it, it's going to be watered down and not authentic. So why do I put myself out there, with my videos, to be judged by all the world to see? I make videos because they are fun, they uplift, inspire, amuse, & spread good vibes. I could always disable the comments section. But why? Other people may want to tell me that I made them laugh, giggle, feel lighter. That they decided to step outside their box and buy that leopard dress, because they were inspired by my zany spirit.
And no worries all you beautiful peeps, I will not be deterred by negative Nancies. I am still going to make videos, write books, and shine my awesomeness for all the world to see. I have a wonderful group of cheerleaders and I feel blessed to have them. I am cheering on each and every one of you who are reading this on. I believe in you. I believe in me. What energy you put out there, comes back you you. And to my naysayers, Namaste, Blessings, & all the yummy delicious to you.
P.S. My kids thought it was funny! I am so blessed to have them. My ten year old wanted to comment back a mean comment in my defense, but I said that would not make me look like a very good mommy. ;p MUAH! xoxo
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Monday, April 9, 2012
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Silly Pickle Dilly
This morning, I was getting stuff ready to make breakfast for my lil' guys. I was talking to my hubby, who has been working CRAZY hours, so I feel like I haven't seen him in a week. The fridge was open and my youngest, two year old Seamus, loves to grab anything he can, especially things on the shelves of the fridge door. He twisted pickle jar lid off, spilling pickle juice everywhere. I was so annoyed, all this frustration came out of nowhere and I started saying all this silly victim crap. Stay at home mom, BS thinking, I was really good at, years ago. Interesting reaction. Kind of like, yelling over spilled pickle juice, is the new crying over spilled milk. I let myself feel overwhelmed with trying to do EVERYTHING. My mind was racing. It's not even about getting everything done even, it's prioritizing what is important. Everyday I have to feed the kids, do laundry, dishes, pick up from activities, etc. I don't have to clean up the toys clean every night, but I do because I like that way. Not that I am neat freak, I have no time to be a neat freak. I try to fit in exercise at some point, most days. I meditate when my youngest two are sleeping, except last night, I was too burnt out. But I did get some writing done yesterday. It is always my goal to exercise, write, and mediate, so days like that I love. Because I follow the Law of Attraction and like to feel good, after two minutes, and I was clear and back to feeling grateful he has a job.
I changed my focus, and thought about all of things, in this past week that I really appreciated. Every time Seamus yelled out to Finnegan, pronouncing it as, "Cinnamon." It never gets old. And he says, "I lud de too," for I love you too. The time I was in the car with my Mom, and she she thought the song, "G6," they were saying, "Like a cheesesteak, high like a cheesesteak." Cheese stick sounds more like it though. And how Seamus pronounces her name, Gibby, as Buddy. The other day, Finnegan, who is five told me that Seamus's breath was chaotic. He proceeded to tell me lots of things were chaotic that day, even a giraffe, that he once saw at the zoo. I asked if he knew what it meant and he said no. That I have two new TV shows that I love. I love to watch TV, or read a book, at night after the kids are asleep. It's my "me" time. On Long Island Medium, the lady is adorable, and she's the real deal. And the show, Smash, where the cast is amazing talented. The one guy, who plays the director, is such a hottie too. As I really thought about how much I love in life, I looked out the window to abundant sunshine, and saw a vibrant blue sky. That is my natural state, happy.
Hours later, I was feeling that a friend of mine didn't think I was important. Which really had nothing to do with her. My feelings got hurt and I looked at the energy of it. I did not want to be upset, peace is what I like to feel, with everyone. WOW, lots of my fiery tiger feelings was coming up. I knew there was a juicy piece for me to learn. So I thought about all the friends that are important to me, even if I don't call them. I haven't returned one of my best friend's phone calls from the other day, not because she is not important, but I am busy. I released the feelings and underneath, I felt my truth. How am I not making myself important? Where am I not making myself important? How am I not making what I say, do, or write important? Times when I felt invisible came up. Do I not value myself? Hmm....I got the message from a energy worker that I needed to do this, making myself a priority. I thought I was. But I think the balance thing is so different for everyone. For instance, I have to clean up the toys every night, but don't mind if the laundry sits in a basket unfolded for a day. I am not trying to be Super woman, but maybe I was, in some ways. I was thinking, how can I make my writing more important. It is easy to write when my hubby is off. I know Danielle Steele, who has seven kids, wrote at night when her kids were little. That is not going to work for me right now. My brain doesn't work as well the, it requires meditation, TV, and a glass of wine. I really was so glad these feelings came up.
I didn't need to figure out how I am going to put myself more on the radar. Or how I am going to find more writing time? It was about realizing that in some ways, that I did not value myself. There is the part that doesn't really value what I write or say. I thought about times, that as a stay at home mom, that I didn't feel valued or important for what I did too. There is came again. Mixed with "I am worthy" stuff. What is my worth? My sassy spiritual sexpot side decided to chime in saying, "I am a friggin' ROCKSTAR!" Of course I am important, valueable, and worthy. Look at me! I am fabulous! I am wise, fun, creative, talented, and radiate love. I have so much to bring to this world, by shining my Light, who I really am. So release those self-esteem issues and step further into yourself. Don't worry about whether you are a good enough mother, writer, friend, wife, whatever! DUH, you are! Having awareness and releasing limiting beliefs frees you. And soon, you will have someone clean your house, so you can have a clean house and write. YES! That will be awesome! I love you! And you don't have to be super woman, but you can be Wonder Woman. LOL!" Yes, this was me talking to myself. Come on, we all do it.
Always remember your value and how important you are. Balance in your life is not the same for everyone. You make it work for your life. For me, I know that I have to write, it is in my soul. If I didn't, I would not feel fulfilled. And also, when emotions come up, look within and see what it is. Then release it and move on to what you want. Be easy on yourself. It's OK to need more "me" time than someone else. Or not like to have as much on your plate as someone else. We're all different. Another thing, when you think you have already learned a lesson, and it rears its ugly head again, don't be hard on yourself. It's like the peeling the layers of the onions. It's all good. Trust that. Being a positive person doesn't mean you never have negative moment, it's that you choose to not stay there. And ALWAYS Love yourself. I share my feelings, being authentic and open, so maybe someone will get some insight into their own life or they will learn something. Being yourself doesn't have to make you be vulnerable, it make make set you free. Namaste, Lovies, Shanti, Blessings, & all yummy delicious stuff to all of you!
I changed my focus, and thought about all of things, in this past week that I really appreciated. Every time Seamus yelled out to Finnegan, pronouncing it as, "Cinnamon." It never gets old. And he says, "I lud de too," for I love you too. The time I was in the car with my Mom, and she she thought the song, "G6," they were saying, "Like a cheesesteak, high like a cheesesteak." Cheese stick sounds more like it though. And how Seamus pronounces her name, Gibby, as Buddy. The other day, Finnegan, who is five told me that Seamus's breath was chaotic. He proceeded to tell me lots of things were chaotic that day, even a giraffe, that he once saw at the zoo. I asked if he knew what it meant and he said no. That I have two new TV shows that I love. I love to watch TV, or read a book, at night after the kids are asleep. It's my "me" time. On Long Island Medium, the lady is adorable, and she's the real deal. And the show, Smash, where the cast is amazing talented. The one guy, who plays the director, is such a hottie too. As I really thought about how much I love in life, I looked out the window to abundant sunshine, and saw a vibrant blue sky. That is my natural state, happy.
Hours later, I was feeling that a friend of mine didn't think I was important. Which really had nothing to do with her. My feelings got hurt and I looked at the energy of it. I did not want to be upset, peace is what I like to feel, with everyone. WOW, lots of my fiery tiger feelings was coming up. I knew there was a juicy piece for me to learn. So I thought about all the friends that are important to me, even if I don't call them. I haven't returned one of my best friend's phone calls from the other day, not because she is not important, but I am busy. I released the feelings and underneath, I felt my truth. How am I not making myself important? Where am I not making myself important? How am I not making what I say, do, or write important? Times when I felt invisible came up. Do I not value myself? Hmm....I got the message from a energy worker that I needed to do this, making myself a priority. I thought I was. But I think the balance thing is so different for everyone. For instance, I have to clean up the toys every night, but don't mind if the laundry sits in a basket unfolded for a day. I am not trying to be Super woman, but maybe I was, in some ways. I was thinking, how can I make my writing more important. It is easy to write when my hubby is off. I know Danielle Steele, who has seven kids, wrote at night when her kids were little. That is not going to work for me right now. My brain doesn't work as well the, it requires meditation, TV, and a glass of wine. I really was so glad these feelings came up.
I didn't need to figure out how I am going to put myself more on the radar. Or how I am going to find more writing time? It was about realizing that in some ways, that I did not value myself. There is the part that doesn't really value what I write or say. I thought about times, that as a stay at home mom, that I didn't feel valued or important for what I did too. There is came again. Mixed with "I am worthy" stuff. What is my worth? My sassy spiritual sexpot side decided to chime in saying, "I am a friggin' ROCKSTAR!" Of course I am important, valueable, and worthy. Look at me! I am fabulous! I am wise, fun, creative, talented, and radiate love. I have so much to bring to this world, by shining my Light, who I really am. So release those self-esteem issues and step further into yourself. Don't worry about whether you are a good enough mother, writer, friend, wife, whatever! DUH, you are! Having awareness and releasing limiting beliefs frees you. And soon, you will have someone clean your house, so you can have a clean house and write. YES! That will be awesome! I love you! And you don't have to be super woman, but you can be Wonder Woman. LOL!" Yes, this was me talking to myself. Come on, we all do it.
Always remember your value and how important you are. Balance in your life is not the same for everyone. You make it work for your life. For me, I know that I have to write, it is in my soul. If I didn't, I would not feel fulfilled. And also, when emotions come up, look within and see what it is. Then release it and move on to what you want. Be easy on yourself. It's OK to need more "me" time than someone else. Or not like to have as much on your plate as someone else. We're all different. Another thing, when you think you have already learned a lesson, and it rears its ugly head again, don't be hard on yourself. It's like the peeling the layers of the onions. It's all good. Trust that. Being a positive person doesn't mean you never have negative moment, it's that you choose to not stay there. And ALWAYS Love yourself. I share my feelings, being authentic and open, so maybe someone will get some insight into their own life or they will learn something. Being yourself doesn't have to make you be vulnerable, it make make set you free. Namaste, Lovies, Shanti, Blessings, & all yummy delicious stuff to all of you!
Friday, March 9, 2012
Ladies of love, light, & life!
I attended the eWomenNetwork conference in Atlantic City this week. CRAZY CUPCAKES! I was so intimidated at first. I was going to see Lisa Nichols, the best-selling author who was featured in the book, the Secret. My lovely mother had gotten us tickets. I didn't know what to expect, but I got up early and dressed in my sassy sans-kids way, feeling very confident. When I walked in, you could just feel the power of these women. It was a buzz, a confidence, and a truly feminine-loving nature flowing around. We heard lots of amazing women speak, each one giving me a piece of my puzzle, and confirming what was in my heart. In the past, smart, successful, powerful women really intimidated me. I felt that they were better than me. I cowered inside, next to their confidence. The women at this conference welcomed you, with open arms, to share what they know.
As we were asked to share about ourselves, handing out our business cards, I handed out scraps of paper with my name, number, blog, and facebook page on it. Hey, you gotta start somewhere. Every women I met was helpful, supportive, and inspiring. I am still processing all that I heard and experienced that day. If I wrote everything about day, it would be a small book. I really wish I could impart what learned to everyone, because I really can't do it justice with words, but it was beyond transformational. One of the most important things that I want to share is it got me to ask myself more questions and reminded me that I am a ROCKSTAR, as we all are. Don't ever stop believing that!
Having to tell people about myself made me ask, who am I and what do I do? It made me have to adjust and relax my energy into this, which help me build confidence. I am a mother of four. I blog, write fiction, and am still cultivating just exactly what other awesomeness that I am going to do. It was about me telling them what I plan on doing, not showing them until I start making it into a business or making money at it. I know, in my bones, that I am going to be a successful writer, speaker, and more. Writing that, is so much easier than telling a stranger...until now. It made me stretch out of my comfort zone. With each person that I spoke with, was first blown away that I have four kids, like it was twenty-five of them, and believed in me right away, that this was going to happen for me. Many real soul connections were made, as each person really was a teacher and student, to each other. I had to ask myself some hard, personal questions too. Was I caring about what others thought, therefore stopping my own mojo? Was I using my time wisely, sweating over things that don't matter? Was I focusing on what I wanted? Was I afraid to succeed? What was my energy like, when people meet me (confident, open, loving, fun), I hope? Do I feel stuck in any way? What do I see for myself in the future? What steps can I take towards that? What are my intentions? So many more, I am sure, but the idea is always to examine where you are at. From a loving place within yourself, ask yourself questions. And if you need assistance, ask and be open to receive what you need.
There were many laughs and stories shared by the speakers and by each lovely lady that I met. I took many things, as signs from the Universe, confirming that I am right on track. The message echoed throughout was, that there is no competition, we are all unique and a true gift to this world. Keep dreaming big. You can do it! I thank all those women who were cheering myself and everyone on. Marilyn Kleinberg was the organizer and I just love her personality, it's fun and refreshing. I told her that what I loved about the eWomenNetwork Conference is that it was a great mix of business and spiritual energy. Sandra Yancey, the founder of eWomenNetwork is so beautiful and inspiring. She spoke of being a mother and entrepreneur. She told her story about starting her business, empowering us all that we can achieve epic success. Lisa Nichols spoke of having this dream in her belly, that if we have to give birth too, even if no one understands. I felt like she was speaking to me and me alone. She read my heart. She exudes love. If you ever get the chance to see her speak, be prepared to feel a real presence of magic. It wasn't just a talk that she gave, but rather an experience, that I had. I felt emotion well up in my heart, as I teared up.
Even though, I don't know the how's yet, it confirmed deep-down in my soul that I am meant to do that. I want to give talks like that. Speaking so that I may uplift, inspire, empower, and cheer on other people. I want to be an example to others, to teach them what I have learned. I can see it now. I will hand out glitter pom-poms at the door, not to cheer me on, but for them to cheer themselves on. I will step up on that stage and we will have a blast, it will be so fun. I will let my Light shine, leading the way, for those who forgot how awesome they are. I will say, "Here is the way, here is a path, that may be less traveled but you will be so happy you took it. Maybe you have never seen anyone do what you want to do, but maybe that's cause you are a badass pioneer, a rebel maverick, a sparkly firework, on the edge of glory, rockin' on that leading edge." And I will end with: "You are amazing, always remember that. Stand up and cheer for yourselves, ROCKSTARS! Rock & shine, like the brilliant diamond you are. I love you ALL!" I will be up selling my novels and my fun-and-deep, Jennylicious guide to life, and my products too. Dream big, while totally loving life today. xoxo
And Mommy, thank you being the greatest teacher of my life and my biggest supporter. One day, I think I'll be writing a book about you. I'd also like to thank the women that I happen to have their names. The rest of you, thank you, in spirit. And to the people reading this, I send you a big, sparkly, cyber hug! Thank you for reading. Please feel free to share.
Marilyn Kleinberg-www.ewomennetwork.com
Sandra Yancey-www.new.ewomennetwork.com/
Lisa Nichols-lisanichols.com
Kathleen Cashman-www.cashmanconsultingllc.com
Janet Garraty-www.gojanenews.com
Lisa Monahan-www.bridgingenergies.com
Cristi Cook-www.abetterbalancedyou.com
Sabrina Smith-www.ericksplace.org
Sylvia Henderson-www.springboardtraining.com
Lisa Marie Platske-www.upsidethinking.com
Johanna Scheets-johannascheets.myarbonne.com
Stella Collington-eatpaylove.com
Cindy Cipriani-www.clearpathinstitute.com
Emily Morgan-meetemilymorgan.com
Amy Druding-www.permanentmakeupbyamy.net
Donna Andrews-donnaandrewsphotography.com
Shaun Stephenson-www.thecircleoften.ning.com/
Carol Plummer-http://www.ewomennetwork.com/chapterHomePage/chapterHomePage.php?code=montgomery
www.olis-originals.com/
Anne Glenning (My Mom)-http://www.ameripriseadvisors.com/anne.d.glenning/profile/
As we were asked to share about ourselves, handing out our business cards, I handed out scraps of paper with my name, number, blog, and facebook page on it. Hey, you gotta start somewhere. Every women I met was helpful, supportive, and inspiring. I am still processing all that I heard and experienced that day. If I wrote everything about day, it would be a small book. I really wish I could impart what learned to everyone, because I really can't do it justice with words, but it was beyond transformational. One of the most important things that I want to share is it got me to ask myself more questions and reminded me that I am a ROCKSTAR, as we all are. Don't ever stop believing that!
Having to tell people about myself made me ask, who am I and what do I do? It made me have to adjust and relax my energy into this, which help me build confidence. I am a mother of four. I blog, write fiction, and am still cultivating just exactly what other awesomeness that I am going to do. It was about me telling them what I plan on doing, not showing them until I start making it into a business or making money at it. I know, in my bones, that I am going to be a successful writer, speaker, and more. Writing that, is so much easier than telling a stranger...until now. It made me stretch out of my comfort zone. With each person that I spoke with, was first blown away that I have four kids, like it was twenty-five of them, and believed in me right away, that this was going to happen for me. Many real soul connections were made, as each person really was a teacher and student, to each other. I had to ask myself some hard, personal questions too. Was I caring about what others thought, therefore stopping my own mojo? Was I using my time wisely, sweating over things that don't matter? Was I focusing on what I wanted? Was I afraid to succeed? What was my energy like, when people meet me (confident, open, loving, fun), I hope? Do I feel stuck in any way? What do I see for myself in the future? What steps can I take towards that? What are my intentions? So many more, I am sure, but the idea is always to examine where you are at. From a loving place within yourself, ask yourself questions. And if you need assistance, ask and be open to receive what you need.
There were many laughs and stories shared by the speakers and by each lovely lady that I met. I took many things, as signs from the Universe, confirming that I am right on track. The message echoed throughout was, that there is no competition, we are all unique and a true gift to this world. Keep dreaming big. You can do it! I thank all those women who were cheering myself and everyone on. Marilyn Kleinberg was the organizer and I just love her personality, it's fun and refreshing. I told her that what I loved about the eWomenNetwork Conference is that it was a great mix of business and spiritual energy. Sandra Yancey, the founder of eWomenNetwork is so beautiful and inspiring. She spoke of being a mother and entrepreneur. She told her story about starting her business, empowering us all that we can achieve epic success. Lisa Nichols spoke of having this dream in her belly, that if we have to give birth too, even if no one understands. I felt like she was speaking to me and me alone. She read my heart. She exudes love. If you ever get the chance to see her speak, be prepared to feel a real presence of magic. It wasn't just a talk that she gave, but rather an experience, that I had. I felt emotion well up in my heart, as I teared up.
Even though, I don't know the how's yet, it confirmed deep-down in my soul that I am meant to do that. I want to give talks like that. Speaking so that I may uplift, inspire, empower, and cheer on other people. I want to be an example to others, to teach them what I have learned. I can see it now. I will hand out glitter pom-poms at the door, not to cheer me on, but for them to cheer themselves on. I will step up on that stage and we will have a blast, it will be so fun. I will let my Light shine, leading the way, for those who forgot how awesome they are. I will say, "Here is the way, here is a path, that may be less traveled but you will be so happy you took it. Maybe you have never seen anyone do what you want to do, but maybe that's cause you are a badass pioneer, a rebel maverick, a sparkly firework, on the edge of glory, rockin' on that leading edge." And I will end with: "You are amazing, always remember that. Stand up and cheer for yourselves, ROCKSTARS! Rock & shine, like the brilliant diamond you are. I love you ALL!" I will be up selling my novels and my fun-and-deep, Jennylicious guide to life, and my products too. Dream big, while totally loving life today. xoxo
And Mommy, thank you being the greatest teacher of my life and my biggest supporter. One day, I think I'll be writing a book about you. I'd also like to thank the women that I happen to have their names. The rest of you, thank you, in spirit. And to the people reading this, I send you a big, sparkly, cyber hug! Thank you for reading. Please feel free to share.
Marilyn Kleinberg-www.ewomennetwork.com
Sandra Yancey-www.new.ewomennetwork.com/
Lisa Nichols-lisanichols.com
Kathleen Cashman-www.cashmanconsultingllc.com
Janet Garraty-www.gojanenews.com
Lisa Monahan-www.bridgingenergies.com
Cristi Cook-www.abetterbalancedyou.com
Sabrina Smith-www.ericksplace.org
Sylvia Henderson-www.springboardtraining.com
Lisa Marie Platske-www.upsidethinking.com
Johanna Scheets-johannascheets.myarbonne.com
Stella Collington-eatpaylove.com
Cindy Cipriani-www.clearpathinstitute.com
Emily Morgan-meetemilymorgan.com
Amy Druding-www.permanentmakeupbyamy.net
Donna Andrews-donnaandrewsphotography.com
Shaun Stephenson-www.thecircleoften.ning.com/
Carol Plummer-http://www.ewomennetwork.com/chapterHomePage/chapterHomePage.php?code=montgomery
www.olis-originals.com/
Anne Glenning (My Mom)-http://www.ameripriseadvisors.com/anne.d.glenning/profile/
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