We're heading into the holiday hoopla-happiness-haze that lasts until the kids go back to school in the Perry household. I am looking towards 2013 with some new goals. I wanted to take a moment to encourage you all to look at resolutions for yourself...with joy, not self-doubt and dread. Focusing on what you want is always good. Even if you're not even close to where you want to be with your goal, I believe in you. I believe it is possible. I'm going to share what mine was last year.
January 1st of 2012, I started the day with a polar plunge into the frigid Atlantic Ocean in a bikini. I wanted to look rockin' in a bikini for the summer and started to envision that happening. I got myself mentally geared up, but didn't really commit until February 28th. That is when I was ready. And I achieved my goal. It really wasn't about a number, it was about a feeling. I wanted to really be comfortable with my body. I wanted to get lean, but I really wanted to feel like a Queen. When you want to lose weight, it can help you to see the pounds dropping on that scale. But it doesn't happen overnight, so weighing yourself no more than once a week is beneficial. You almost have to ignore what is, your current you, and just look forward. KNOWING that each meal, each workout, each day is creating this new you. It will pay off. You know this. It's science. After having four kids, I know how to lose weight and have been up and down. This time, I knew feeling good is an inside job. I looked at what I ate and how I exercised as just choices. Not good or bad, just choices. If I made them good or bad, I'd make me good or bad. I really made my goal about being strong. Try that one on for size, instead of saying: "Ugh, I'm so fat. I NEED to lose weight, but I hate to exercise....blah, blah, blah." Say: "I'm getting in shape this year. I am going to be so strong. I can't wait to see what I can do. There are great meals I can come up with. I'll make it an adventure to see what exercise I like." See how much the energy changes. YOU CAN CHANGE. If you want to change something, you can. Enjoy your journey whatever it is.
Now losing weight may not be your goal and it doesn't matter what it is. Love yourself first. Always feel like a Queen...or King. But if you absolutely hate everything right now and force yourself to make changes, you're looking at circumstances which ultimately are not what make you happy. You do. And really examine what your goals are and why you want them. They have to be for you. Listen to your heart whispers. What are they telling you? Have you always wanted to do something? Do you know something needs to change? Does the Universe keep giving you signs? Not reaching outside of your comfort zone keeps you comfortable, which is not living up to your full potential. Some moments along your journey shake you up, bring up doubt, making you question yourself. This is good. Then you see what you are made of. Don't let stress or being uncomfortable stop you from your goal. They're just growing pains. Even this week, I was dealing with stress and self-doubt crept its ugly head up and I had to decide what to do. I felt extremely uncomfortable and trusted that it would be okay. It will be okay. I choose me. And I want you to choose you. I am cheering you on and know that 2013 is YOUR year! Maybe this is your sign from the Universe. If it touches your heart, it is. I believe in you. Before the clock strikes midnight, commit to writing down goals for 2013. Let your imagination go wild with possibility for what your life could look like. What do you want to feel in 2013? Dream big! Next will come the steps to get there, but first declare what you want to the Universe. GO________(insert your name), GO! Got my sparkly pom-poms and I am rooting for you, Kings & Queens!!! Woohoo!!!
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Friday, December 21, 2012
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Realtionships ROCK!
All of our relationships teach us about ourselves. Our romantic partners, children, parents, siblings, friends, coworkers, and our adversaries all bring up and point out our "stuff." Our closest relationships have the potential to really help us grow and become more of who were truly are. Sounds like woo woo to you, that's fine. If everyone in your life pisses you off, pushes your buttons, makes you angry, and you want to feel better...then suspend your old way of thinking for a minute. You see, these triggers are a gift. They don't feel like it, but they can be. These are opportunities to look within and ask yourself lots of questions:
~Why do I get so ANGRY when people don't agree, validate, or make me happy by what they are doing? (Often with our children, coworkers, partners, etc...whatever situations make you really mad.) It's a chance to let go of the need to control others and find peace within ourselves, no matter what someone else is doing.
~When my feelings get HURT from someone not including me, insulting me, or my partner/friend/parent/whoever not giving me enough attention...what is this bringing up for me to heal? (Whatever triggers make you feel wounded is the key here.) Your past feelings from when you were picked last in gym class come up at times like this.
~Whenever you go into the dynamic of blame and victim, stop for a second. Listen to what you are saying and thinking. "They always do this. Everyone does this to me. Whatever I do is never enough for you. You make me so mad. All you ever do is take, take, take. You're so mean to me. You never do it right." Sometimes we have a habit of saying the same things often to people or thinking them. This is a great time to journal or take a piece of paper out to find out what else is going on. You can: A. Write down what you want to feel. What you want, instead of what's going on. B. Write down all the times you can think of where you felt this way. It helps heal, when you deal. C. Write down how you could possibly say, do, or think of the situation or person differently.
Avoiding people and situations can work for a little while, but eventually you'll encounter people...unless you hide away in a hut somewhere, which I certainly did not come here for. I came here to learn, grow, enjoy, teach, and so many other things. What works for me is to be honest with myself. I don't have to necessarily tell they other person they upset me. It can create unnecessary drama. There intention may be good, but you have a negative reaction because it's about YOU. Isn't that awesome! Everyone doesn't have to change in order for you to be happy! This is where my four children give me countless times a day to do my internal work so I can experience more joy. As always, do what works for you. Setting intentions, forgiving, letting go, blessing others, Law of Attraction, self-growth, sending love & light, healing energy, new agey-woo woo stuff continues to change my life. So I'm gonna keep on keepin' on! And remember...No one can "make" you feel bad or mad. What they do or say has no power over you. You are way more powerful that that. You have a choice always. Blessings!
~Why do I get so ANGRY when people don't agree, validate, or make me happy by what they are doing? (Often with our children, coworkers, partners, etc...whatever situations make you really mad.) It's a chance to let go of the need to control others and find peace within ourselves, no matter what someone else is doing.
~When my feelings get HURT from someone not including me, insulting me, or my partner/friend/parent/whoever not giving me enough attention...what is this bringing up for me to heal? (Whatever triggers make you feel wounded is the key here.) Your past feelings from when you were picked last in gym class come up at times like this.
~Whenever you go into the dynamic of blame and victim, stop for a second. Listen to what you are saying and thinking. "They always do this. Everyone does this to me. Whatever I do is never enough for you. You make me so mad. All you ever do is take, take, take. You're so mean to me. You never do it right." Sometimes we have a habit of saying the same things often to people or thinking them. This is a great time to journal or take a piece of paper out to find out what else is going on. You can: A. Write down what you want to feel. What you want, instead of what's going on. B. Write down all the times you can think of where you felt this way. It helps heal, when you deal. C. Write down how you could possibly say, do, or think of the situation or person differently.
Avoiding people and situations can work for a little while, but eventually you'll encounter people...unless you hide away in a hut somewhere, which I certainly did not come here for. I came here to learn, grow, enjoy, teach, and so many other things. What works for me is to be honest with myself. I don't have to necessarily tell they other person they upset me. It can create unnecessary drama. There intention may be good, but you have a negative reaction because it's about YOU. Isn't that awesome! Everyone doesn't have to change in order for you to be happy! This is where my four children give me countless times a day to do my internal work so I can experience more joy. As always, do what works for you. Setting intentions, forgiving, letting go, blessing others, Law of Attraction, self-growth, sending love & light, healing energy, new agey-woo woo stuff continues to change my life. So I'm gonna keep on keepin' on! And remember...No one can "make" you feel bad or mad. What they do or say has no power over you. You are way more powerful that that. You have a choice always. Blessings!
Saturday, July 21, 2012
YOU DAY!
Hello Beautyilicious! Take the day off! If you can't today, do it real soon. It's essential to nurture your spirit, by taking care of your body and mind. I am here by, giving you permission to stay in bed all day if you want. You can watch movies and eat ice cream. You can go by what your body tells you it wants. Sometimes it needs to rest and relax. For some, it needs to skydive, it's whatever you like. Many people say, oh...but I have so much to do. But I will tell you, the "stuff" can wait a day. When you keep running around, minds never stopping, you can get worn out. You body gets sick and needs to heal. But you can hit the refresh button, just like on your computer. Recharge yourself, by doing what you like. Live on purpose and that could means going shopping, if that is what you have been wanting to do. Let yourself have a vacation day, once a month. You will thank yourself for it.
Tips:
Think only what you want to think about. Or don't think at all.
Do things that feel good. Treat yourself like you really are on vacation.
Stress, worry, regret, fear, doubt, and guilt are not allowed to come on vacay with you.
Laugh, play, dance, lounge, swim, eat, drink, stretch, and whatever your body likes.
Your kids can eat peanut butter and jelly or cereal. Having a happy parent means more to their health, than what's for dinner one night a month. Or order take-out if you can. Cook if you enjoy it. This is about a state of mind. So even if you can't afford to go on vacation, make yourself have the feeling. Dust will wait for you. Laundry is very patient. Yard work is going to be there tomorrow. It's your life, you make the rules. You get to define how you like to live and what you want to do. By making yourself top priority, you show others, including your kids, how to be happy themselves. Show other the way to be happy, by being happy.
And I did follow my own advice and did this last Thursday. I sat on my sun porch, with a saucy novel, and read for hours. In the afternoon, I even made a fruity cocktail, which is named Liquid Sunshine. Psst...I invented it and it's just Pino Grigio with chopped pineapple, but it's delicious! I did do some laundry, but didn't fold it. You see, sheets that were peed on by little kids cannot wait, but I still had my vacay state of mind. We ordered pizza for dinner and watched a funny movie. The Thursday before, we went to the beach from 1pm to 7pm and we had pizza on the beach for dinner. This is how you make a fabulous life for yourself. You think it up and then create it.
Knowing that how I feel is the most important thing, I take care of myself everyday. When you are aware of your energy and how your vibe is, you have so much more to give. Although, you have to balance that. There is no..."Oh, I'm so sorry I can't help that day" (or do that thing for you). I don't say "I feel so bad..." when I can't do things anymore. You can't be everything to everybody. Especially to be successful and happy, you have to know what to say no to, and what to say yes to. You can tell by the feeling inside, it gives you. You have your answers within. You really are a ROCKSTAR! And Rockstars deserve vacations. And another secret is: You can live in the vacation state of mind all the time. Just by treating yourself with kindness, following your bliss, doing things that make you feel good, and focusing on the positive...is like being on vacation. That sense of freedom is always where, should you choose to accept the mission. Your mission is: TO LOVE YOURSELF UNABASHEDLY. Now....GO! Over and out, Roger!
LOL! Can you tell I have have little kids. ;)
Tips:
Think only what you want to think about. Or don't think at all.
Do things that feel good. Treat yourself like you really are on vacation.
Stress, worry, regret, fear, doubt, and guilt are not allowed to come on vacay with you.
Laugh, play, dance, lounge, swim, eat, drink, stretch, and whatever your body likes.
Your kids can eat peanut butter and jelly or cereal. Having a happy parent means more to their health, than what's for dinner one night a month. Or order take-out if you can. Cook if you enjoy it. This is about a state of mind. So even if you can't afford to go on vacation, make yourself have the feeling. Dust will wait for you. Laundry is very patient. Yard work is going to be there tomorrow. It's your life, you make the rules. You get to define how you like to live and what you want to do. By making yourself top priority, you show others, including your kids, how to be happy themselves. Show other the way to be happy, by being happy.
And I did follow my own advice and did this last Thursday. I sat on my sun porch, with a saucy novel, and read for hours. In the afternoon, I even made a fruity cocktail, which is named Liquid Sunshine. Psst...I invented it and it's just Pino Grigio with chopped pineapple, but it's delicious! I did do some laundry, but didn't fold it. You see, sheets that were peed on by little kids cannot wait, but I still had my vacay state of mind. We ordered pizza for dinner and watched a funny movie. The Thursday before, we went to the beach from 1pm to 7pm and we had pizza on the beach for dinner. This is how you make a fabulous life for yourself. You think it up and then create it.
Knowing that how I feel is the most important thing, I take care of myself everyday. When you are aware of your energy and how your vibe is, you have so much more to give. Although, you have to balance that. There is no..."Oh, I'm so sorry I can't help that day" (or do that thing for you). I don't say "I feel so bad..." when I can't do things anymore. You can't be everything to everybody. Especially to be successful and happy, you have to know what to say no to, and what to say yes to. You can tell by the feeling inside, it gives you. You have your answers within. You really are a ROCKSTAR! And Rockstars deserve vacations. And another secret is: You can live in the vacation state of mind all the time. Just by treating yourself with kindness, following your bliss, doing things that make you feel good, and focusing on the positive...is like being on vacation. That sense of freedom is always where, should you choose to accept the mission. Your mission is: TO LOVE YOURSELF UNABASHEDLY. Now....GO! Over and out, Roger!
LOL! Can you tell I have have little kids. ;)
Monday, April 9, 2012
Let your haters, be your motivators!
I share these negative comments from two of my Jennylicious youtube videos, because I found some great lessons from them. On my video, "Shake your biscuit," This person commented: I feel bad for ur children... Having a mom who doesn't kno how to act like an adult, grow up please!
And on my video,"I'm so pretty," she commented: I'm a girl, and even think ugly girls shouldn't make videos like this. Just saying.... Freedom of speech.
Interesting, huh? When I first checked my email and saw this, I cringed...a mean comment doesn't feel good. Oh, but it does, after you see that it is not about you, it's about them. One of the greatest lessons is to not take things personally, which is definitely a lot easier when it is a stranger.
First of all, I could delete it. But I won't. I am not embarrassed. I know who I am. I responded to her in a kind manner. Her opinion is through her lens she views the world with. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a really great Mom, and HELL YEAH, I am silly. I am never growing up and I don't care what anyone thinks of that. Being kid-like and also being a responsible parent is what I am. As for the second video, I guess she is saying I am ugly. Which is fine. I know I am beautiful and that is all that matters. She doesn't have a picture up, but I hope she feels beautiful and that she loves herself. When you truly love yourself, you don't need to comment mean things, to hurt other people. You wish everyone the best.
Plus, I did not come here to be liked, I came here to be ME. It's easy to retreat when someone doesn't like your video, your book, your painting, your photography, your music, or whatever. It makes you reexamine why you are doing it. It you are making it so that EVERYONE likes it, it's going to be watered down and not authentic. So why do I put myself out there, with my videos, to be judged by all the world to see? I make videos because they are fun, they uplift, inspire, amuse, & spread good vibes. I could always disable the comments section. But why? Other people may want to tell me that I made them laugh, giggle, feel lighter. That they decided to step outside their box and buy that leopard dress, because they were inspired by my zany spirit.
And no worries all you beautiful peeps, I will not be deterred by negative Nancies. I am still going to make videos, write books, and shine my awesomeness for all the world to see. I have a wonderful group of cheerleaders and I feel blessed to have them. I am cheering on each and every one of you who are reading this on. I believe in you. I believe in me. What energy you put out there, comes back you you. And to my naysayers, Namaste, Blessings, & all the yummy delicious to you.
P.S. My kids thought it was funny! I am so blessed to have them. My ten year old wanted to comment back a mean comment in my defense, but I said that would not make me look like a very good mommy. ;p MUAH! xoxo
And on my video,"I'm so pretty," she commented: I'm a girl, and even think ugly girls shouldn't make videos like this. Just saying.... Freedom of speech.
Interesting, huh? When I first checked my email and saw this, I cringed...a mean comment doesn't feel good. Oh, but it does, after you see that it is not about you, it's about them. One of the greatest lessons is to not take things personally, which is definitely a lot easier when it is a stranger.
First of all, I could delete it. But I won't. I am not embarrassed. I know who I am. I responded to her in a kind manner. Her opinion is through her lens she views the world with. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a really great Mom, and HELL YEAH, I am silly. I am never growing up and I don't care what anyone thinks of that. Being kid-like and also being a responsible parent is what I am. As for the second video, I guess she is saying I am ugly. Which is fine. I know I am beautiful and that is all that matters. She doesn't have a picture up, but I hope she feels beautiful and that she loves herself. When you truly love yourself, you don't need to comment mean things, to hurt other people. You wish everyone the best.
Plus, I did not come here to be liked, I came here to be ME. It's easy to retreat when someone doesn't like your video, your book, your painting, your photography, your music, or whatever. It makes you reexamine why you are doing it. It you are making it so that EVERYONE likes it, it's going to be watered down and not authentic. So why do I put myself out there, with my videos, to be judged by all the world to see? I make videos because they are fun, they uplift, inspire, amuse, & spread good vibes. I could always disable the comments section. But why? Other people may want to tell me that I made them laugh, giggle, feel lighter. That they decided to step outside their box and buy that leopard dress, because they were inspired by my zany spirit.
And no worries all you beautiful peeps, I will not be deterred by negative Nancies. I am still going to make videos, write books, and shine my awesomeness for all the world to see. I have a wonderful group of cheerleaders and I feel blessed to have them. I am cheering on each and every one of you who are reading this on. I believe in you. I believe in me. What energy you put out there, comes back you you. And to my naysayers, Namaste, Blessings, & all the yummy delicious to you.
P.S. My kids thought it was funny! I am so blessed to have them. My ten year old wanted to comment back a mean comment in my defense, but I said that would not make me look like a very good mommy. ;p MUAH! xoxo
Thursday, March 1, 2012
A bout of self doubt makes you pout!
Self-doubt is a tricky one, it pretends to be your friend at first. Beware! It creeps in slowly. It started out telling me, "You have so much going on, with the kids, you just don't have time to write." Sound innocent. But then it leads to, you just don't have what it takes to manage it all...you just don't have what it takes. I was having self-doubt rock my confidence. I knew inside though, that this really wasn't real. I waited it out. I allowed the blah feelings to surface, on and off, for at least a week. It was no fun at times, but I knew it was what was no longer served me, coming up to let it go. You see, I have changed the way I think, but in the past, self-doubt was the voice I always heard in my head. So I recognized it, trying to trick me with it's...what makes you so special? What makes you think you can succeed? How can you make your dreams come true? Be realistic. You can't have a toned body, you have four kids. You are not smart enough. All this stuff I use to believe about myself, secretly. It was almost comical, to see the thoughts come up. I was thinking, where in the hell did that come from? And of course,with the Law of Attraction, because I was doubting myself, I would draw conversations, where I felt like I had to explain myself. It was exhausting. I wanted to call my Mom, sister, or friends to look for validation. In the past, I would have asked for help, but then I would have not really gotten to the other side of this. I share this with you, because I always learn so much from others' life experiences.
And WOW, do I love being back to me. Where I can totally see this in Oprah's magazine, I could see myself being a featured columnist/blogger. I dream big, I believe that anything is possible for me. I believe in myself and that is really all that matters to me. Others do not have to believe in me, understand me, validate me. It is not their job. And when I allow myself to be defined by others, when they like me, or agree with me, I am high up on the roller coaster. When they don't agree, or like me, I am at the bottom. That is a crazy way to live. I do not choose that anymore. What I learned from this latest lesson, is that when self-doubt tricks you, hold tight, it's okay. You are not eternally flawed or broken. Choose to just hold on and trust.
I had an "I Don't Knowism" sitch going on. I had a case of "Little-old-me syndrome" and a bout of "Not Enoughness." I felt like I was on the hamster wheel and my mind was racing. With all this stirred up, I had to think about everything I believe, know, feel, have done. It was a big letting go of energy and now there is a newness. Whew! When you are aware and observe yourself and your thoughts, miracles can really happen. You can always change how you think. But like what happened to me, hiccups along the way, help move you along. When you are getting in shape physically, you don't expect to have six-pack abs in one day, so be easy on yourself. You can consciously make changes on how you think, but subconsciously you have lots of crappy thinking from the past in there. Good new is that repetition causes changes to the conscious, so keep going, affirmations, telling a new story of your life, positive thinking, appreciating your life, and feeling good. You reprogram yourself, you work out the kinks, with your vibration on continual basis. Law of attraction in action. People may think it's easy for me, I make it look easy sometimes. I was good at faking how I really felt and thought. I was that happy face behind the pain type gal. Now I am I the happy face behind the happy. Just ask my kids. I annoy the crap out of my teenage daughter, which I will admit is funny. I choose happy. I had enough of feeling bad, this is way more fun. Being authentic and true to myself, I am sharing what a beautiful thing my hiccup was.
I Don't Knowism: I had this feeling that I could not shake. It was self-doubt making me think that I didn't know anything. That I didn't know how to do anything. This can feel like you are lost. You are not, you are on your path, and you get to choose your direction. You are not struck, if you don't label it as that. I momentarily thought that I had not made an progress in the past year, which I knew was not true. It is not about the physical stuff, as much as the foundation, that I have built inside of me. What I knew was I am happier than I was last year, clearer in my knowing, and more confident than ever. I had already learned that when I confront old feelings, or insecurities, whatever the negative is...that I am so much freer and feel so much more expansive afterwards. I don't avoid how I feel, or else I can't change it. I just sat with the feeling and trusted my inner knowing. It is okay to not have all the answers. I did ask myself, "What do I know?" "Who am I?" "What do I want?" I asked my higher self and waited for the wisdom and insight to come. And now that I am back in the feeling good business, all the wisdom and insights came flooding to me. Oh yeah! I know I am a ROCKSTAR of my life! I have all the knowing inside of me. We all do.
Little-old-me syndrome: Lil' old me is ordinary, mediocre, and the nothing is special about me, thinking. Look at everyone else, they are amazing and me, not so much. I felt like I was in competition with everyone. I realized that when you are feeling the low vibe, you feel lack, and you are in competition, comparing yourself to others. Self doubt was telling me that Little-old-me can't be a successful writer, get in better shape, give inspirational talks, keep making my Jennylicious happy raps, and achieve all that I dream and desire. Well, watch me, self-doubt! You do not have to believe in me, you never did. You were the one who egged me on in making bad choices in the past, making me believe that I was little-old-me. But you know what, I am so glad you did, because it makes getting here, to this fabulous place, even more delicious. I felt that fleeting temptation to go back to playing small, but self-doubt, I hate to tell you, the train has left the station. I can't go back. Thank God! So when others did not think I was the greatest thing, since sliced bread, you would tell me "they are idiots, what do they know?" But really, you loved it. You loved me playing small, being little-old-me, where you could be in charge. You can't trick me though, I am confident now, to the core. When I was having a bout of self-doubt, I affirmed: I am confident in all areas of my life. Cause sometimes you gotta fake it, til you make it, til' you get over the hump. And you will get there.
Not Enoughness: This part is my least favorite and it's the biggie for me. It stirs the pot the most, it's what led me to an eating disorder in my teens, to try to be thin enough. It had worthiness and self-esteem issues coming up. This turned out to be such a gem, of a lesson for me. I was already feeling like I did not have the answers I thought I did, my whole energy internally was little-old-me, and not thinking I was good enough was so uncomfortable and foreign to me nowadays. I refused to really, truly, believe this drama, but it was pretty wild. I had this life review thing going on, thinking about the past, which really reminded me that I am a totally different person now. Even in a bad moment, I don't hate myself. Self-doubt told me that I sucked at parenting, cleaning, organizing, writing, being me, life, and whatever else it could bring up. I tried to think why I was enough. I decided that wasn't going to work at that moment. I just had to say: I am enough. The fog was clearing and clarity was like a bright blue sky, after a storm. The truth is none of it mattered whether I was good at anything, it is how I felt about myself. And that determines everything for me. It doesn't matter whether others think I am good enough at whatever, if I don't. Also, if others don't think I am good enough, it doesn't matter either. I run my own own show, it's about me living my life. They can live theirs. It's perfect. And I know that I am more than good enough, I'm me. And I am success at me. Everything else, really is the icing on the cake. So enough is enough, I love myself even more now. I love being me. And in me, being real, sharing what I learn, I am hoping others benefit too. My wish is for all to feel as good as I do, confident and sure. Always onward and upward. Holla if you're with me. Whoot! Whoot! ;)
And WOW, do I love being back to me. Where I can totally see this in Oprah's magazine, I could see myself being a featured columnist/blogger. I dream big, I believe that anything is possible for me. I believe in myself and that is really all that matters to me. Others do not have to believe in me, understand me, validate me. It is not their job. And when I allow myself to be defined by others, when they like me, or agree with me, I am high up on the roller coaster. When they don't agree, or like me, I am at the bottom. That is a crazy way to live. I do not choose that anymore. What I learned from this latest lesson, is that when self-doubt tricks you, hold tight, it's okay. You are not eternally flawed or broken. Choose to just hold on and trust.
I had an "I Don't Knowism" sitch going on. I had a case of "Little-old-me syndrome" and a bout of "Not Enoughness." I felt like I was on the hamster wheel and my mind was racing. With all this stirred up, I had to think about everything I believe, know, feel, have done. It was a big letting go of energy and now there is a newness. Whew! When you are aware and observe yourself and your thoughts, miracles can really happen. You can always change how you think. But like what happened to me, hiccups along the way, help move you along. When you are getting in shape physically, you don't expect to have six-pack abs in one day, so be easy on yourself. You can consciously make changes on how you think, but subconsciously you have lots of crappy thinking from the past in there. Good new is that repetition causes changes to the conscious, so keep going, affirmations, telling a new story of your life, positive thinking, appreciating your life, and feeling good. You reprogram yourself, you work out the kinks, with your vibration on continual basis. Law of attraction in action. People may think it's easy for me, I make it look easy sometimes. I was good at faking how I really felt and thought. I was that happy face behind the pain type gal. Now I am I the happy face behind the happy. Just ask my kids. I annoy the crap out of my teenage daughter, which I will admit is funny. I choose happy. I had enough of feeling bad, this is way more fun. Being authentic and true to myself, I am sharing what a beautiful thing my hiccup was.
I Don't Knowism: I had this feeling that I could not shake. It was self-doubt making me think that I didn't know anything. That I didn't know how to do anything. This can feel like you are lost. You are not, you are on your path, and you get to choose your direction. You are not struck, if you don't label it as that. I momentarily thought that I had not made an progress in the past year, which I knew was not true. It is not about the physical stuff, as much as the foundation, that I have built inside of me. What I knew was I am happier than I was last year, clearer in my knowing, and more confident than ever. I had already learned that when I confront old feelings, or insecurities, whatever the negative is...that I am so much freer and feel so much more expansive afterwards. I don't avoid how I feel, or else I can't change it. I just sat with the feeling and trusted my inner knowing. It is okay to not have all the answers. I did ask myself, "What do I know?" "Who am I?" "What do I want?" I asked my higher self and waited for the wisdom and insight to come. And now that I am back in the feeling good business, all the wisdom and insights came flooding to me. Oh yeah! I know I am a ROCKSTAR of my life! I have all the knowing inside of me. We all do.
Little-old-me syndrome: Lil' old me is ordinary, mediocre, and the nothing is special about me, thinking. Look at everyone else, they are amazing and me, not so much. I felt like I was in competition with everyone. I realized that when you are feeling the low vibe, you feel lack, and you are in competition, comparing yourself to others. Self doubt was telling me that Little-old-me can't be a successful writer, get in better shape, give inspirational talks, keep making my Jennylicious happy raps, and achieve all that I dream and desire. Well, watch me, self-doubt! You do not have to believe in me, you never did. You were the one who egged me on in making bad choices in the past, making me believe that I was little-old-me. But you know what, I am so glad you did, because it makes getting here, to this fabulous place, even more delicious. I felt that fleeting temptation to go back to playing small, but self-doubt, I hate to tell you, the train has left the station. I can't go back. Thank God! So when others did not think I was the greatest thing, since sliced bread, you would tell me "they are idiots, what do they know?" But really, you loved it. You loved me playing small, being little-old-me, where you could be in charge. You can't trick me though, I am confident now, to the core. When I was having a bout of self-doubt, I affirmed: I am confident in all areas of my life. Cause sometimes you gotta fake it, til you make it, til' you get over the hump. And you will get there.
Not Enoughness: This part is my least favorite and it's the biggie for me. It stirs the pot the most, it's what led me to an eating disorder in my teens, to try to be thin enough. It had worthiness and self-esteem issues coming up. This turned out to be such a gem, of a lesson for me. I was already feeling like I did not have the answers I thought I did, my whole energy internally was little-old-me, and not thinking I was good enough was so uncomfortable and foreign to me nowadays. I refused to really, truly, believe this drama, but it was pretty wild. I had this life review thing going on, thinking about the past, which really reminded me that I am a totally different person now. Even in a bad moment, I don't hate myself. Self-doubt told me that I sucked at parenting, cleaning, organizing, writing, being me, life, and whatever else it could bring up. I tried to think why I was enough. I decided that wasn't going to work at that moment. I just had to say: I am enough. The fog was clearing and clarity was like a bright blue sky, after a storm. The truth is none of it mattered whether I was good at anything, it is how I felt about myself. And that determines everything for me. It doesn't matter whether others think I am good enough at whatever, if I don't. Also, if others don't think I am good enough, it doesn't matter either. I run my own own show, it's about me living my life. They can live theirs. It's perfect. And I know that I am more than good enough, I'm me. And I am success at me. Everything else, really is the icing on the cake. So enough is enough, I love myself even more now. I love being me. And in me, being real, sharing what I learn, I am hoping others benefit too. My wish is for all to feel as good as I do, confident and sure. Always onward and upward. Holla if you're with me. Whoot! Whoot! ;)
Saturday, January 21, 2012
C what I'm talkin' about!
I learn a lot from my children. I learn about myself in parenting them. I am blessed to have four kids, who keep me on my toes, and being me lots of joy. I have one daughter, McKayla, a fourteen year old, in her first year of high school. I have three sons, Aidan (10-5th grade), Finnegan (almost 5-preschool) and Seamus (2 yrs old today). I deal with different personalities and different ages, which all have their awesome parts and their...well, their opportunities for me to grow. I cannot control any of them, nor would I want to, except when they are bad. LOL! I see those places where I get frustrated and want to control, as a way for me to really let go. It really changes your state of mind. I wanted to share some of what I've been learning and realizing for myself. The Crappy C's and the Cool C's.
Crappy C's
Compare: Never compare yourself to others. It's a dumb game that you will lose to someone, in some area. I want my kids to learn that you really are running your OWN race, not against someone else. Ahhh...in my twenties, I compared myself to every other mother. This is the biggest energy drain. Just do YOU, do YOU good, and leave everyone else out of it. When you really work on loving yourself, you value yourself more, and don't need to make others, better or worse, than you. You realize you are free, to be you, and they are free, to be them.
Compete: When you are focused on how well someone else is doing, it may momentarily give you a boost to get your butt in gear, but then what...they go ahead of you, or someone else now is, and then you are back to square one. Let yourself shine, in your own way, doing your best and you will be happy because you are enjoying YOUR journey. I really do wish everyone well and that they have success, there is plenty to go around. I want my kids to realize that compare & compete are an evil duo, not to be messed with.
Control: My kids are so good at providing me with material to learn this one. Whether it is them, not listening/attitude/being kids, or your neighbor, brother, partner, friend, whoever, you CANNOT control anyone. When you are trying to force it, see what happens, when you let go. One of my sanity savers is sending Light & Love to whoever and it centers me. If I act like an ass and yell, I remind myself, that while that yields immediate results, in the process I felt bad. So what do I want...to feel good, or control/get my way/let others have the key to my happiness.
Complain: Where you ever listening to someone complain and thinking, I wish they would shut the hell up. Well, that's what you sound like you complain. It doesn't solve anything. Maybe for some, they get people to change behaviors, but going about it in a positive way, makes you feel a heck of a lot better, in the process. And if you observe people, you will see the Law of Attraction at work, in that if they constantly complain, they attract more to complain about. I have heard people complain about things, that I thought were good, it's all perspective. Like grocery shopping, I love having a variety to choose from and the money to pay for them. That makes it a totally different experience for me. It's the same with exercise and cooking, you can find they joy, cause why live on minute of your life, not trying to make the best of it.
Cool C's (Could be called Conscious C's also)
Cultivate: Create new way of thinking, more positive thoughts and lots of appreciation. New habits like meditation (one of the best things I ever did), a gratitude journal, and there are a million books of self-help, positive thinking, spirituality that can really change your life. Even if you replace some TV shows with funnier ones or really a juicy novel, or whatever brings you joy at the end of your day. Remember you can change your life by cultivating a new version of it. In my upbeat attitude, I show my kids how to cultivate a way of life.
Choose: We have many choices we take for granted. We get to choose what we eat, what we wear, what we read, watch on TV, who we hang out with, and what we think. Be choosy about your thoughts, Don't let a bunch of negative garbage play on a constant loop in your head. OK, so your boss is an ass, change jobs or change your attitude about him. You get to choose how you think, and if you don't like your negative thinking, cause you realize it's not working anymore, than you can choose to think positively. I teach my kids, that each one of us, can always choose differently, in each moment. And if you mess up, there is always next time.
Clarity: With each interaction we have, everything we see, read, hear we make judgements. We don't have to judge them as good or bad, but by rather if it feels good to us, resonates with us, works for us. We gain clarity everyday. I like that, I'd like more of that, I LOVE that! When we can detach a little and not take everything personally, we can see things much clearer. For me, clarity is not about figuring out everything, but a vibrational, spiritual, energy thing. When something makes my heart sing, touches my soul, and opens my mind more I gain so much clarity. I teach my kids that they make up their own minds and that it is up to each one of us, to decide what we believe. I can't give them or anyone clarity, I wouldn't wnat to rob them of their joyful journey.
Care: Take care of yourself. Take baths, move your body, eat delicious things, feed your soul with things that delight you. Care about how you feel about you. My message is always~LOVE YOURSELF! And you are so much more loving to everyone, when you have taken care of yourself. Don't expect yourself to be perfect and get down on yourself. Always forgive yourself for mistakes, the past is done, and now move forward. Only dwell on the positive. Every time I say I love you to my kids, I am building their self-esteem. I want them to know they are ROCKSTARS. How I treat myself, is what they learn about how to treat themselves. So, if you leave dishes in the sink, your playroom doesn't get leaned one day, you forgot it was show-and-tell day at school...oh well. It is OK. Feeling guilty is a waste, life is to be lived!
My goal everyday is to uplift and inspire, especially through my writing and blogging. I love to spread joy and remind others to love themselves. I aim to raise my vibration and deepen my connection to God/Source/Universe and have fun! You get to choose what works for you, isn't that awesome! Muah to ALL!
Crappy C's
Compare: Never compare yourself to others. It's a dumb game that you will lose to someone, in some area. I want my kids to learn that you really are running your OWN race, not against someone else. Ahhh...in my twenties, I compared myself to every other mother. This is the biggest energy drain. Just do YOU, do YOU good, and leave everyone else out of it. When you really work on loving yourself, you value yourself more, and don't need to make others, better or worse, than you. You realize you are free, to be you, and they are free, to be them.
Compete: When you are focused on how well someone else is doing, it may momentarily give you a boost to get your butt in gear, but then what...they go ahead of you, or someone else now is, and then you are back to square one. Let yourself shine, in your own way, doing your best and you will be happy because you are enjoying YOUR journey. I really do wish everyone well and that they have success, there is plenty to go around. I want my kids to realize that compare & compete are an evil duo, not to be messed with.
Control: My kids are so good at providing me with material to learn this one. Whether it is them, not listening/attitude/being kids, or your neighbor, brother, partner, friend, whoever, you CANNOT control anyone. When you are trying to force it, see what happens, when you let go. One of my sanity savers is sending Light & Love to whoever and it centers me. If I act like an ass and yell, I remind myself, that while that yields immediate results, in the process I felt bad. So what do I want...to feel good, or control/get my way/let others have the key to my happiness.
Complain: Where you ever listening to someone complain and thinking, I wish they would shut the hell up. Well, that's what you sound like you complain. It doesn't solve anything. Maybe for some, they get people to change behaviors, but going about it in a positive way, makes you feel a heck of a lot better, in the process. And if you observe people, you will see the Law of Attraction at work, in that if they constantly complain, they attract more to complain about. I have heard people complain about things, that I thought were good, it's all perspective. Like grocery shopping, I love having a variety to choose from and the money to pay for them. That makes it a totally different experience for me. It's the same with exercise and cooking, you can find they joy, cause why live on minute of your life, not trying to make the best of it.
Cool C's (Could be called Conscious C's also)
Cultivate: Create new way of thinking, more positive thoughts and lots of appreciation. New habits like meditation (one of the best things I ever did), a gratitude journal, and there are a million books of self-help, positive thinking, spirituality that can really change your life. Even if you replace some TV shows with funnier ones or really a juicy novel, or whatever brings you joy at the end of your day. Remember you can change your life by cultivating a new version of it. In my upbeat attitude, I show my kids how to cultivate a way of life.
Choose: We have many choices we take for granted. We get to choose what we eat, what we wear, what we read, watch on TV, who we hang out with, and what we think. Be choosy about your thoughts, Don't let a bunch of negative garbage play on a constant loop in your head. OK, so your boss is an ass, change jobs or change your attitude about him. You get to choose how you think, and if you don't like your negative thinking, cause you realize it's not working anymore, than you can choose to think positively. I teach my kids, that each one of us, can always choose differently, in each moment. And if you mess up, there is always next time.
Clarity: With each interaction we have, everything we see, read, hear we make judgements. We don't have to judge them as good or bad, but by rather if it feels good to us, resonates with us, works for us. We gain clarity everyday. I like that, I'd like more of that, I LOVE that! When we can detach a little and not take everything personally, we can see things much clearer. For me, clarity is not about figuring out everything, but a vibrational, spiritual, energy thing. When something makes my heart sing, touches my soul, and opens my mind more I gain so much clarity. I teach my kids that they make up their own minds and that it is up to each one of us, to decide what we believe. I can't give them or anyone clarity, I wouldn't wnat to rob them of their joyful journey.
Care: Take care of yourself. Take baths, move your body, eat delicious things, feed your soul with things that delight you. Care about how you feel about you. My message is always~LOVE YOURSELF! And you are so much more loving to everyone, when you have taken care of yourself. Don't expect yourself to be perfect and get down on yourself. Always forgive yourself for mistakes, the past is done, and now move forward. Only dwell on the positive. Every time I say I love you to my kids, I am building their self-esteem. I want them to know they are ROCKSTARS. How I treat myself, is what they learn about how to treat themselves. So, if you leave dishes in the sink, your playroom doesn't get leaned one day, you forgot it was show-and-tell day at school...oh well. It is OK. Feeling guilty is a waste, life is to be lived!
My goal everyday is to uplift and inspire, especially through my writing and blogging. I love to spread joy and remind others to love themselves. I aim to raise my vibration and deepen my connection to God/Source/Universe and have fun! You get to choose what works for you, isn't that awesome! Muah to ALL!
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Jolly joy
I first want to say, Happy Solstice, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanza, Merry Christmas, and for those who do not celebrate those...delicious December to you. I felt moved to write about the real meaning of Christmas, that magical Christmas spirit. It sounds cliche to some, but I love a good cliche, with cheesy goodness mixed in, when it fits. This morning, I decided to try to hunt for the elf on the shelf book, which my four year old has been bugging me about. He kept asking me, when the elf was going to come, since he heard about it at school. I had already looked for one at a store, but they didn't have it, so I figured we would have to wait until next year. I told him that maybe there were not enough elves this year. His response, "Mom, there are like twenty-one (like that's an astronomical number) and one might be in my head." LOL. Giving it another try, I called a store in town and they had it. My Mom picked it up for me, cause she's the best. I just love when things are easy. Finn was overjoyed when he saw the elf.
After we read the story, I cleaned up in the kitchen. Finn said, "Mom don't listen, I have to tell the elf something." And for those without small children, when they whisper, it's either is really loud, or so soft it's like gibberish. I heard him say to the elf, "Please make Christmas special of everyone." That, there, is my Christmas present. My heart is full. I told him that he made Christmas really special for me. And he said I made all the holidays special for him, even the scary one, like Halloween. In that moment, I realized a huge thing. I thought back to when I was in my twenties and felt like I was not a good enough mother, unless I could buy the right things, do traditions like other people did them, and all that crap. My Mom always gave me and my little sisters pins to wear, candy, and cards for every holiday. I thought if I did not do it that way, it would not be special. And some years, I couldn't buy certain things for my kids, or do all the holiday things other people did, like taking them to see Disney on Ice or go skiing. I felt like a failure and that my kids would feel deprived. This, my friends, was all in my mind. My kids always had so many wonderful things, we went to New York to see a holiday show, and went to Disney world several times. It was just me comparing my life to others and wasn't really seeing the beauty that there was. It was seeing what was going wrong and not what was going right.
Today, it really dawned on me, that what I give my kids, in the way of enthusiasm for the holidays means more than any trinket I could buy them. I do not remember all those little pins my Mom gave us for holidays, but I remember the decorations and the feeling. I am so glad she gave me that love for holidays and life. My kids will remember me playing Christmas music all the time, the cookie extravaganza, the Christmas movies, me wearing a Santa hat and being really excited about Christmas. They will remember the magical feeling, that, yes comes with awesome gifts. But they will not remember the gifts when they get older, but rather, that they felt loved and special. My older ones will tell stories of complaining about driving around to see Christmas lights, when they just wanted to go home. They will remember, somehow slowly Dad took over holiday decorating and he enjoys it, and since Mom was no longer a control freak, she let him have free reign. That he also would make foot prints from Santa and knock over stuff so it looked realistic. They will have pictures of all four kids wearing some sort of Christmas pajamas, since I gave up on the matching ones. And we are always starting new traditions. We might even do New Years cards this year, who knows?
Lesson is: Let yourself off the hook, of trying to be perfect, or do it how other people do it. I think every family can have their OWN traditions that are unique to them. Have fun, the holidays are suppose to be a merry time, so if something stresses you out, re-think it. Just because you always did something, doesn't mean you can't change it up. Make it easy and joyful and if you can't change it, change you attitude about it. If you can't stand having to buy gifts for all these people, think about how awesome it is, that you have the money to buy the stuff. Count your blessings, you will truly feel the Christmas spirit then. Love to all!!! I wish I could send you all a cookie. I make the BEST chocolate chip cookies. I am calling them Jennylicious Joy cookies. Carry on with the merriment, my friends. :)
After we read the story, I cleaned up in the kitchen. Finn said, "Mom don't listen, I have to tell the elf something." And for those without small children, when they whisper, it's either is really loud, or so soft it's like gibberish. I heard him say to the elf, "Please make Christmas special of everyone." That, there, is my Christmas present. My heart is full. I told him that he made Christmas really special for me. And he said I made all the holidays special for him, even the scary one, like Halloween. In that moment, I realized a huge thing. I thought back to when I was in my twenties and felt like I was not a good enough mother, unless I could buy the right things, do traditions like other people did them, and all that crap. My Mom always gave me and my little sisters pins to wear, candy, and cards for every holiday. I thought if I did not do it that way, it would not be special. And some years, I couldn't buy certain things for my kids, or do all the holiday things other people did, like taking them to see Disney on Ice or go skiing. I felt like a failure and that my kids would feel deprived. This, my friends, was all in my mind. My kids always had so many wonderful things, we went to New York to see a holiday show, and went to Disney world several times. It was just me comparing my life to others and wasn't really seeing the beauty that there was. It was seeing what was going wrong and not what was going right.
Today, it really dawned on me, that what I give my kids, in the way of enthusiasm for the holidays means more than any trinket I could buy them. I do not remember all those little pins my Mom gave us for holidays, but I remember the decorations and the feeling. I am so glad she gave me that love for holidays and life. My kids will remember me playing Christmas music all the time, the cookie extravaganza, the Christmas movies, me wearing a Santa hat and being really excited about Christmas. They will remember the magical feeling, that, yes comes with awesome gifts. But they will not remember the gifts when they get older, but rather, that they felt loved and special. My older ones will tell stories of complaining about driving around to see Christmas lights, when they just wanted to go home. They will remember, somehow slowly Dad took over holiday decorating and he enjoys it, and since Mom was no longer a control freak, she let him have free reign. That he also would make foot prints from Santa and knock over stuff so it looked realistic. They will have pictures of all four kids wearing some sort of Christmas pajamas, since I gave up on the matching ones. And we are always starting new traditions. We might even do New Years cards this year, who knows?
Lesson is: Let yourself off the hook, of trying to be perfect, or do it how other people do it. I think every family can have their OWN traditions that are unique to them. Have fun, the holidays are suppose to be a merry time, so if something stresses you out, re-think it. Just because you always did something, doesn't mean you can't change it up. Make it easy and joyful and if you can't change it, change you attitude about it. If you can't stand having to buy gifts for all these people, think about how awesome it is, that you have the money to buy the stuff. Count your blessings, you will truly feel the Christmas spirit then. Love to all!!! I wish I could send you all a cookie. I make the BEST chocolate chip cookies. I am calling them Jennylicious Joy cookies. Carry on with the merriment, my friends. :)
Friday, December 2, 2011
You got this, Girl!
I was on the treadmill yesterday and I was thinking about how excited I am about my life. I am going to be choosing a cover design for my book this weekend. I'm doing it! I live consciously, training myself to think positively and keep my vibrations high. I have no room for doubt, if I want to live the life I see myself living. Can I speak on stage? Hell yeah! Can I write more delicious fiction? Sure can! Do I have distinct outlook that would make a great self-improvement book? Of course. If you think that there is nothing special about you, or that there are so many writers out there, why bother...you have sealed your fate. You gotta go for it. Even if you don't know exactly what that is, dwell in the possibilities and daydream about what you LOVE. There are little signs and nudges you'll get from the Universe. I don't know exactly know if it was my inner being/soul, talking to Jennylicious, or vice versa. But we all talk to ourselves internally, just by our train of thinking. If you vocalized what you thought, you may see a subconscious pattern. You can always start telling yourself nice things, which is why I will share what I told myself. It went like this:
You got this, Girl. Success is knockin' at your door and you are ready. You have what it takes. You're a rockstar! You just gotta be true to you and stay centered. You really can't care what anyone thinks, good or bad, or else you won't be at your full potential. Stay in your zone, create from there and others will be inspired. If you go in their zone, you get mixed up in their opinions. Come on, you feel it. You know you are special and it's time to shine, showing others how they can do it to. Just keep loving yourself. You know you are good enough and worthy. You've done the work, you studied the Law of Attraction, you've let go of limited beliefs, you have made your high-good-fab-vibes your life. You created a new you, every day, perfecting your thinking and attitude. This is gonna be awesome! You are going to rock this! It's gonna be fun! Thank you, Universe. I just love you. Thank you me, my beautiful family, my parents, sister, friends, trees, life, chocolate, Christmas... I can't even remember what else because I was caught up in the moment. Appreciation is powerful. (I love a good pep talk-YAY me!) * Why not try it yourself?
So naysayers, haters, doubters, pessimists, need not bother...I believe in me and that is all that every matters. And people love and cheer me on anyway. It's just sometimes people mean well, they just don't want you to aim for the sky, sitting your bar high, dreaming big. Anyone who has achieved big things has started with an idea, a thought, a concept that was not real yet. It was not born yet, it had to be created. I do not believe in luck. We attract what we expect. If we embody success, prosperity, creativity, confidence, WATCH OUT WORLD! Tip: You can always talk yourself out of fear or doubt. You do not have to believe every random thought that comes in your head.
I could write every minute, of every day, but get nowhere. What it takes, on a thinking level, is a positive attitude. Check! Step by step, everyday, I am closer to my goals, BUT I live in the now. Love right now to make your future bright. Start listing what you like bout life, even the littlest things. Your outlook will transform and you will see things differently. GO YOU!
You got this, Girl. Success is knockin' at your door and you are ready. You have what it takes. You're a rockstar! You just gotta be true to you and stay centered. You really can't care what anyone thinks, good or bad, or else you won't be at your full potential. Stay in your zone, create from there and others will be inspired. If you go in their zone, you get mixed up in their opinions. Come on, you feel it. You know you are special and it's time to shine, showing others how they can do it to. Just keep loving yourself. You know you are good enough and worthy. You've done the work, you studied the Law of Attraction, you've let go of limited beliefs, you have made your high-good-fab-vibes your life. You created a new you, every day, perfecting your thinking and attitude. This is gonna be awesome! You are going to rock this! It's gonna be fun! Thank you, Universe. I just love you. Thank you me, my beautiful family, my parents, sister, friends, trees, life, chocolate, Christmas... I can't even remember what else because I was caught up in the moment. Appreciation is powerful. (I love a good pep talk-YAY me!) * Why not try it yourself?
So naysayers, haters, doubters, pessimists, need not bother...I believe in me and that is all that every matters. And people love and cheer me on anyway. It's just sometimes people mean well, they just don't want you to aim for the sky, sitting your bar high, dreaming big. Anyone who has achieved big things has started with an idea, a thought, a concept that was not real yet. It was not born yet, it had to be created. I do not believe in luck. We attract what we expect. If we embody success, prosperity, creativity, confidence, WATCH OUT WORLD! Tip: You can always talk yourself out of fear or doubt. You do not have to believe every random thought that comes in your head.
I could write every minute, of every day, but get nowhere. What it takes, on a thinking level, is a positive attitude. Check! Step by step, everyday, I am closer to my goals, BUT I live in the now. Love right now to make your future bright. Start listing what you like bout life, even the littlest things. Your outlook will transform and you will see things differently. GO YOU!
Monday, November 14, 2011
Rock on with your true self!
What do you want? Why? How will that make you feel? Asking myself that, I thought I would feel better about myself if others thought I was really great. That's not giving any power away, is it? Try all of it! People are going to think what they want, which has nothing to do with you, you can't climb in their head and change it. In feeling good about myself, that would make me happy. Not the cycle of...I am happy, now I am mad, I am mad, I am OK, dependent on outside circumstances. You cannot control what others do, even your kids, they are not robots. And some people will think you are a good parent if you do it their way and a bad parent if you don't. Staying out of other people's parenting really frees up time, for sure. I can have an opinion about it, but I don't have to share it. My experience with parenting is, you change your mind, revise rules, you make mistakes, so it's hard to really stand on a soap box too long. Funny thing is, in some way I was always going against the grain with parenting, like sharing a bed with baby, making them vegetarians, etc. I was getting judged and I hated it. Just smile, laugh, and walk away...it throws them off.
Some people declare, "I don't care what the hell anyone thinks." And you totally do not believe them. They say it as a defense. It's really hard to not care at ALL, totally detached. You are going to be too much for some and not enough for others. I sure am. And I can say I don't care, most of the time. I tried to be one size fits all, which is impossible. In writing my novel, some people will love it, some will not. It is preference and I didn't write it for everyone. Some people would rather read about bugs and isn't it great they have that option. If I did not start thinking differently, I would have never stepped out of my comfort zone and wrote a book. Never in a million years, would i have thought I would make rap videos on youtube. I am just being myself now, however that leads me, and it is so exciting. My ego will chime in with some fun thoughts like what would so and so think. Well, so and so can think I am whatever they want. I am not living so and so's life. Thank God. Cause I would suck at being them. I am a real good me. And ultimately, that's all that matters. And it you don't like it, oh well. ;)
Don't let others define or put you in a box. And don't do that to yourself. If you feel inspired to do or be something, go for it. Never fall for the, "Moms can't do that or I'm too old. to do that." Who says? Not so and so again!!!
This is a post on my facebook page, that goes along perfectly with this. I am talking to YOU directly! ROCK ON!!! https://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Peace-Love-Joy-Sparkles/122323451185965
“You are one of a kind, an authentic masterpiece, a genuine original, a unique and special individual! Doesn't that feel WONDERFUL! That also means that you are to follow your own path, not concerned with what others think. They are steering their own ship, you steer yours. BE YOU! The way you, or others, may have defined you, or labeled you, is OVA!!! OVER, DONE, FINITO! If you feel that you were put in a box by others or you did it to yourself, now you know better. YOU ARE FREE! Well, at my age, or Moms can't do that, what would people think...BLAH x 3. What "they" think is none of your beeswax anyway. Don't give other people power over you. No excuses to not living your life for YOU. And when you are a happy, fulfilled, secure person, your relationships are amazingly deep. Remember this is YOUR life and YOU ARE FREAKING AMAZING! Now act like it! ;) xoxo”
Sunday, October 30, 2011
What do you want?
Like the Spice Girls song goes, "So tell me whatcha want, what you really, really want....?" I have always observed myself, which drove me mad for many years. But being aware of your thoughts, holds the key. When you really ask yourself what you want, it opens up the energy. People say, I want to be rich or thin, those are external things. They can bring you happiness, but it is said whether someone wins the lottery or is paralyzed, they go back to their natural happiness level eventually. This makes total sense because happiness is a state of mind. Often we focus on what we don't want, rather than what we do want. Saying that I want others to treat me better, or be nicer, gives all your power away. And really, are you always to them, if you are talking behind their back, about how mean they are. They are showing up how you think they will. How often do you generalize, saying they are always mean to me. I caught myself doing that with my teenage daughter, saying you always or you never. I apologized and said that I would not generalize like that. Relationships have the power to teach us about ourselves. I would say that I wanted peace in our home but then if someone acted a way that I did not like, I didn't let it go right away. That was all ego-I need to be right-I am a victim. Peace has to trump ego's needs. When you decide you make your own happiness, you don't play victim, and if you catch yourself doing it...you STOP.
If you have the power to create the life you want, which you do, what would it look like? What do you want? I want to be rich! Well, me, I'm already rich. Feel what that feels like to say that, "I AM RICH!" To someone, you already are. But what would that make you feel, because it is all about what you want to feel. For some, it may be security, to me it means freedom. I love picturing myself jetting off somewhere, buying sparkly things, and helping people in many ways. It would be FUN. Fun & Freedom is what it means to me. If you are doing it to impress others or anything like that, it is about feeling good about yourself. I love seeing how our thinking can shift. We can shift our thinking, perspective, and focus on different things. This changes everything. You can't be afraid to look within. you are a beautiful being, without all the ego crap. Let that real YOU out, let him/her shine.
In asking yourself, "WHAT DO I WANT?"
1. I want more fun-so then so more fun things. If you intend to have fun and allow yourself to jump at the opportunities, and enjoy it, the Universe will yield to that. But ask, am I a fun person, maybe you need to lighten up. Start by dancing around your house. ;)
2. I want a great relationship. This applies whether you are in one or not. Focus on your happiness, no one else can give you that. If single-Enjoy your life, talk about people that have good relationships, and make a list of what kind of person you would like (go general). If in relationship you would like to improve-talk about what you like about your partner, let go of the past (start fresh), be nice to them, and make yourself happy. It sounds simple but when relationship are rocky, past dramas get brought up and the energy is yucky.
3. I want to be thinner, have a better body. Now, ask why do you want that? So others will think you are desirable, sexy, whatever. You are enough, you are worthy, you are wanted. Own that first. If your motives are about others, you give your power away and it will never be enough. You will never be filled up enough by others. If you want to feel better about you, for yourself, start loving yourself NOW. Talk nice to yourself, post affirmations everywhere, and honor your body. You body is an freaking, amazing, miraculous creation. And stop the judgement of yourself and others, just let it go when it pops up.
There are many more examples I could use but the point it, it's about thoughts and feelings and you have the power to change. Having studied the Law of Attraction and implemented it in my life, doesn't mean you are like a Stepford wife. I promise, you can still curse and drink wine. When you do start thinking differently, being the majority of your thoughts being positive, you attract more good thoughts. Isn't that cool? It means your head is in the clouds with rose-colored sunglasses on, looking at the bright side, drinking from a glass half full. Why wait and be happy later? When this, or that shows up, or goes away, or changes. To me, drama is stressful, to some it's exciting, where as being like me would be boring. Inner peace is bliss and anything but boring. You may still get annoyed, but it's the way you handle it, you don't dwell on it, or EVER live in the past. It's all about energy, baby! What energy are you putting out there, playing in, and vibrating. And biggest thing I want to remind you is, you cannot worry about what others will think. That is a life not lived. Be bold in who you are, even if that is a quiet book worm. Live YOUR life! I wish all of all all your heart's desires!!!
P.S. (as in Pretty Sexy-lol) If any of you are interested in changing you life, check out Oprah's Life class. It validates a lot for me and I've a gotten a few gems. I don't have to agree with everything either but positive TV rocks!
P.P.S. (Perfect Priceless Self-ahh yeah) If you want success, in business, it can be epic and rewarding, but it can't define you. You are an infinite being (soul), in a body, you are not a job title or label. That puts you in a box and then when you are not that, then you lose you you thought you were. Be fabulous! Lovies!
If you have the power to create the life you want, which you do, what would it look like? What do you want? I want to be rich! Well, me, I'm already rich. Feel what that feels like to say that, "I AM RICH!" To someone, you already are. But what would that make you feel, because it is all about what you want to feel. For some, it may be security, to me it means freedom. I love picturing myself jetting off somewhere, buying sparkly things, and helping people in many ways. It would be FUN. Fun & Freedom is what it means to me. If you are doing it to impress others or anything like that, it is about feeling good about yourself. I love seeing how our thinking can shift. We can shift our thinking, perspective, and focus on different things. This changes everything. You can't be afraid to look within. you are a beautiful being, without all the ego crap. Let that real YOU out, let him/her shine.
In asking yourself, "WHAT DO I WANT?"
1. I want more fun-so then so more fun things. If you intend to have fun and allow yourself to jump at the opportunities, and enjoy it, the Universe will yield to that. But ask, am I a fun person, maybe you need to lighten up. Start by dancing around your house. ;)
2. I want a great relationship. This applies whether you are in one or not. Focus on your happiness, no one else can give you that. If single-Enjoy your life, talk about people that have good relationships, and make a list of what kind of person you would like (go general). If in relationship you would like to improve-talk about what you like about your partner, let go of the past (start fresh), be nice to them, and make yourself happy. It sounds simple but when relationship are rocky, past dramas get brought up and the energy is yucky.
3. I want to be thinner, have a better body. Now, ask why do you want that? So others will think you are desirable, sexy, whatever. You are enough, you are worthy, you are wanted. Own that first. If your motives are about others, you give your power away and it will never be enough. You will never be filled up enough by others. If you want to feel better about you, for yourself, start loving yourself NOW. Talk nice to yourself, post affirmations everywhere, and honor your body. You body is an freaking, amazing, miraculous creation. And stop the judgement of yourself and others, just let it go when it pops up.
There are many more examples I could use but the point it, it's about thoughts and feelings and you have the power to change. Having studied the Law of Attraction and implemented it in my life, doesn't mean you are like a Stepford wife. I promise, you can still curse and drink wine. When you do start thinking differently, being the majority of your thoughts being positive, you attract more good thoughts. Isn't that cool? It means your head is in the clouds with rose-colored sunglasses on, looking at the bright side, drinking from a glass half full. Why wait and be happy later? When this, or that shows up, or goes away, or changes. To me, drama is stressful, to some it's exciting, where as being like me would be boring. Inner peace is bliss and anything but boring. You may still get annoyed, but it's the way you handle it, you don't dwell on it, or EVER live in the past. It's all about energy, baby! What energy are you putting out there, playing in, and vibrating. And biggest thing I want to remind you is, you cannot worry about what others will think. That is a life not lived. Be bold in who you are, even if that is a quiet book worm. Live YOUR life! I wish all of all all your heart's desires!!!
P.S. (as in Pretty Sexy-lol) If any of you are interested in changing you life, check out Oprah's Life class. It validates a lot for me and I've a gotten a few gems. I don't have to agree with everything either but positive TV rocks!
P.P.S. (Perfect Priceless Self-ahh yeah) If you want success, in business, it can be epic and rewarding, but it can't define you. You are an infinite being (soul), in a body, you are not a job title or label. That puts you in a box and then when you are not that, then you lose you you thought you were. Be fabulous! Lovies!
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