All of our relationships teach us about ourselves. Our romantic partners, children, parents, siblings, friends, coworkers, and our adversaries all bring up and point out our "stuff." Our closest relationships have the potential to really help us grow and become more of who were truly are. Sounds like woo woo to you, that's fine. If everyone in your life pisses you off, pushes your buttons, makes you angry, and you want to feel better...then suspend your old way of thinking for a minute. You see, these triggers are a gift. They don't feel like it, but they can be. These are opportunities to look within and ask yourself lots of questions:
~Why do I get so ANGRY when people don't agree, validate, or make me happy by what they are doing? (Often with our children, coworkers, partners, etc...whatever situations make you really mad.) It's a chance to let go of the need to control others and find peace within ourselves, no matter what someone else is doing.
~When my feelings get HURT from someone not including me, insulting me, or my partner/friend/parent/whoever not giving me enough attention...what is this bringing up for me to heal? (Whatever triggers make you feel wounded is the key here.) Your past feelings from when you were picked last in gym class come up at times like this.
~Whenever you go into the dynamic of blame and victim, stop for a second. Listen to what you are saying and thinking. "They always do this. Everyone does this to me. Whatever I do is never enough for you. You make me so mad. All you ever do is take, take, take. You're so mean to me. You never do it right." Sometimes we have a habit of saying the same things often to people or thinking them. This is a great time to journal or take a piece of paper out to find out what else is going on. You can: A. Write down what you want to feel. What you want, instead of what's going on. B. Write down all the times you can think of where you felt this way. It helps heal, when you deal. C. Write down how you could possibly say, do, or think of the situation or person differently.
Avoiding people and situations can work for a little while, but eventually you'll encounter people...unless you hide away in a hut somewhere, which I certainly did not come here for. I came here to learn, grow, enjoy, teach, and so many other things. What works for me is to be honest with myself. I don't have to necessarily tell they other person they upset me. It can create unnecessary drama. There intention may be good, but you have a negative reaction because it's about YOU. Isn't that awesome! Everyone doesn't have to change in order for you to be happy! This is where my four children give me countless times a day to do my internal work so I can experience more joy. As always, do what works for you. Setting intentions, forgiving, letting go, blessing others, Law of Attraction, self-growth, sending love & light, healing energy, new agey-woo woo stuff continues to change my life. So I'm gonna keep on keepin' on! And remember...No one can "make" you feel bad or mad. What they do or say has no power over you. You are way more powerful that that. You have a choice always. Blessings!