Traditionally, in America, we give thanks for our family and our many blessings on THANKSGIVING. I decided to rebel and post as my facebook status, that I am thankful for myself. I really am. I tell my family how much I appreciate them daily. I am thankful for everything (my kids, hubby, parents, sister, friends, home, cars, food in my fridge, and all the wonderful things in my life.) I think that already with my youngest, who will be two in January, I have said, " I love you" a billizion times. Now back to me. LOL. Here's why it is so important, in my experience to make self-love the most important.
I was a young mom, of twenty, and I fell in love with my little princess. But as I went through my twenties, issues I never dealt with, like loving myself, made it difficult for me to unconditionally love. I ate myself silly for a while and did not like how my body was. I lost a lot of weight, which was great for my ego, for a while. I still did not like myself or feel good enough. I would want good things to happen for me, but I would beat the hell out of myself internally, for my mistakes. I did not think I deserved great things, on this unconscious level. I compare myself to other mothers and did not feel I measured up in many ways. I judged myself all the time. I wanted to be happy, I just thought it would be after external things changed. A really funny one is, thinking if your kids do not talk back, you would be happy. Way to give your power away. Enough with the past, fast forward to now. I did a lot of focusing on positive thinking, Law of Attraction, studying spirituality. I bloomed into the best version of myself.
Now, I love myself. I love who I have become. I love everything about myself. I just get better and better. I get smarter and more creative, as I let myself be true to me. I open my heart more and more, judging less, having more fun every day. I am a brilliant writer. I get hotter, sexier, more beautiful, as I let how I feel about myself, the most important thing. I love my freckles, my angel kisses! I love my gorgeous red hair, my bright blue eyes, and my pouty lips. I love my curves, the strong muscles,and my 5'0 frame. I love every cell of my body, in the magnificent vessel it is. I love that this body has nurtured four healthy babies, given birth to them, and then nourished them when they were born. I love my ability to change, to grow, to adapt, and ultimately shine. I appreciate that I am a Divine spark in this amazing body. I am going to live this life to the fullest, embracing all the deliciousness there is. I am such a rockstar. I am the bee's knees, the cat's meow. I am so proud of who I am. This true self-love comes from your spirit, not your ego.
Why not think you are the greatest thing in this Universe? Everyone should. There is no competition. We can all be #1 in our lives. When you really love yourself, you set boundaries. You teach people how to treat you. It's really about your energy though. People can feel your self-love and confidence and will treat you differently. When you love yourself, you give, with no strings attached. You don't need anyone to validate you, or act a certain way to make you happy. Everyone on the planet can tell you how great you are, but it would not matter, if you did not believe it. And what a waste of a amazing life, to not love yourself. Guilt, doubt, fear, regret, judgement, & negativity have to be evicted out of your brain. You are so worth it.
Some tasty tips:
~Affirmations. Post them everywhere and repeat them aloud to yourself. After a while, that is what is running in your head, that kind, loving voice.
~Follow your dreams. Find what makes you happy and go for it. Do things, surround yourself with, find things that bring you joy.
~Think positively about life. Give yourself a break from judging yourself and others. Opening your mind and heart is freeing.
~Appreciate the good in your life. It feels great to focus on that. Take it in. Know you are worth it, you deserve it.
~Decide that you change the way you think. Your thoughts are not stuck forever in your head. You can change your mind, in any moment. Isn't that reassuring?
I am thankful for all you read my blogs and just for people in general. There are just so many awesome people out there. Be thankful for yourself. Say, I LOVE ME! Lovies to ALL!
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
Peace Love Joy & Sparkles: Rock on with your true self!: I was cleaning up the kitchen this morning, crumbs just love to ...
What do you want? Why? How will that make you feel? Asking myself that, I thought I would feel better about myself if others thought I was really great. That's not giving any power away, is it? Try all of it! People are going to think what they want, which has nothing to do with you, you can't climb in their head and change it. In feeling good about myself, that would make me happy. Not the cycle of...I am happy, now I am mad, I am mad, I am OK, dependent on outside circumstances. You cannot control what others do, even your kids, they are not robots. And some people will think you are a good parent if you do it their way and a bad parent if you don't. Staying out of other people's parenting really frees up time, for sure. I can have an opinion about it, but I don't have to share it. My experience with parenting is, you change your mind, revise rules, you make mistakes, so it's hard to really stand on a soap box too long. Funny thing is, in some way I was always going against the grain with parenting, like sharing a bed with baby, making them vegetarians, etc. I was getting judged and I hated it. Just smile, laugh, and walk away...it throws them off.
Some people declare, "I don't care what the hell anyone thinks." And you totally do not believe them. They say it as a defense. It's really hard to not care at ALL, totally detached. You are going to be too much for some and not enough for others. I sure am. And I can say I don't care, most of the time. I tried to be one size fits all, which is impossible. In writing my novel, some people will love it, some will not. It is preference and I didn't write it for everyone. Some people would rather read about bugs and isn't it great they have that option. If I did not start thinking differently, I would have never stepped out of my comfort zone and wrote a book. Never in a million years, would i have thought I would make rap videos on youtube. I am just being myself now, however that leads me, and it is so exciting. My ego will chime in with some fun thoughts like what would so and so think. Well, so and so can think I am whatever they want. I am not living so and so's life. Thank God. Cause I would suck at being them. I am a real good me. And ultimately, that's all that matters. And it you don't like it, oh well. ;)
Don't let others define or put you in a box. And don't do that to yourself. If you feel inspired to do or be something, go for it. Never fall for the, "Moms can't do that or I'm too old. to do that." Who says? Not so and so again!!!
This is a post on my facebook page, that goes along perfectly with this. I am talking to YOU directly! ROCK ON!!! https://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Peace-Love-Joy-Sparkles/122323451185965
“You are one of a kind, an authentic masterpiece, a genuine original, a unique and special individual! Doesn't that feel WONDERFUL! That also means that you are to follow your own path, not concerned with what others think. They are steering their own ship, you steer yours. BE YOU! The way you, or others, may have defined you, or labeled you, is OVA!!! OVER, DONE, FINITO! If you feel that you were put in a box by others or you did it to yourself, now you know better. YOU ARE FREE! Well, at my age, or Moms can't do that, what would people think...BLAH x 3. What "they" think is none of your beeswax anyway. Don't give other people power over you. No excuses to not living your life for YOU. And when you are a happy, fulfilled, secure person, your relationships are amazingly deep. Remember this is YOUR life and YOU ARE FREAKING AMAZING! Now act like it! ;) xoxo”