Traditionally, in America, we give thanks for our family and our many blessings on THANKSGIVING. I decided to rebel and post as my facebook status, that I am thankful for myself. I really am. I tell my family how much I appreciate them daily. I am thankful for everything (my kids, hubby, parents, sister, friends, home, cars, food in my fridge, and all the wonderful things in my life.) I think that already with my youngest, who will be two in January, I have said, " I love you" a billizion times. Now back to me. LOL. Here's why it is so important, in my experience to make self-love the most important.
I was a young mom, of twenty, and I fell in love with my little princess. But as I went through my twenties, issues I never dealt with, like loving myself, made it difficult for me to unconditionally love. I ate myself silly for a while and did not like how my body was. I lost a lot of weight, which was great for my ego, for a while. I still did not like myself or feel good enough. I would want good things to happen for me, but I would beat the hell out of myself internally, for my mistakes. I did not think I deserved great things, on this unconscious level. I compare myself to other mothers and did not feel I measured up in many ways. I judged myself all the time. I wanted to be happy, I just thought it would be after external things changed. A really funny one is, thinking if your kids do not talk back, you would be happy. Way to give your power away. Enough with the past, fast forward to now. I did a lot of focusing on positive thinking, Law of Attraction, studying spirituality. I bloomed into the best version of myself.
Now, I love myself. I love who I have become. I love everything about myself. I just get better and better. I get smarter and more creative, as I let myself be true to me. I open my heart more and more, judging less, having more fun every day. I am a brilliant writer. I get hotter, sexier, more beautiful, as I let how I feel about myself, the most important thing. I love my freckles, my angel kisses! I love my gorgeous red hair, my bright blue eyes, and my pouty lips. I love my curves, the strong muscles,and my 5'0 frame. I love every cell of my body, in the magnificent vessel it is. I love that this body has nurtured four healthy babies, given birth to them, and then nourished them when they were born. I love my ability to change, to grow, to adapt, and ultimately shine. I appreciate that I am a Divine spark in this amazing body. I am going to live this life to the fullest, embracing all the deliciousness there is. I am such a rockstar. I am the bee's knees, the cat's meow. I am so proud of who I am. This true self-love comes from your spirit, not your ego.
Why not think you are the greatest thing in this Universe? Everyone should. There is no competition. We can all be #1 in our lives. When you really love yourself, you set boundaries. You teach people how to treat you. It's really about your energy though. People can feel your self-love and confidence and will treat you differently. When you love yourself, you give, with no strings attached. You don't need anyone to validate you, or act a certain way to make you happy. Everyone on the planet can tell you how great you are, but it would not matter, if you did not believe it. And what a waste of a amazing life, to not love yourself. Guilt, doubt, fear, regret, judgement, & negativity have to be evicted out of your brain. You are so worth it.
Some tasty tips:
~Affirmations. Post them everywhere and repeat them aloud to yourself. After a while, that is what is running in your head, that kind, loving voice.
~Follow your dreams. Find what makes you happy and go for it. Do things, surround yourself with, find things that bring you joy.
~Think positively about life. Give yourself a break from judging yourself and others. Opening your mind and heart is freeing.
~Appreciate the good in your life. It feels great to focus on that. Take it in. Know you are worth it, you deserve it.
~Decide that you change the way you think. Your thoughts are not stuck forever in your head. You can change your mind, in any moment. Isn't that reassuring?
I am thankful for all you read my blogs and just for people in general. There are just so many awesome people out there. Be thankful for yourself. Say, I LOVE ME! Lovies to ALL!