Thursday, October 28, 2010

It's all good

If you're like me, when you start seeing the kid's mess in your house, how much you have to get done, what's wrong with so and so (husband, co-worker, cashier) you see more of the negative.  It's natural.  And the opposite is true that once you start thinking about how much fun something was, how yummy your dessert was, or how much you liked your vacation, more positive pops up.  Instead of being nit-picky when it comes to kid's clutter I'm making a vow to be more conscious of thinking it's not that bad.  And even better~it's all good.  #1.  No one else seems to care whether my house is clean and 2. It will get cleaned up one way or another.  (Either, I clean it happily or make them do it but NO stress)  Seeing on the news over 370 people were killed in Indonesia by a tsunami, I consider it a reminder that life's is precious and don't sweat the small stuff.  There is always a different way of looking at your situations, no even "well, on the bright side" but rather just a better feeling way.  When I think I'm mini-vanning my life away driving here and there, another way to think it I could be working and never see my kids.  Or if I think I'm not thin enough, think thinner isn't always better )I'm thinking in a wallet).  Haha!  But, I have a healthy body that works magificently and I'm beautiful because I want to teach my daughter we should all think that!  WOW!  I'm beautiful, inside and out, just like my Mom always said.  I'm going to own that!  You should too!  So remember, it's all good.  :)

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Jenny Kissed Me (I thought this was cute!)

Jenny Kissed Me
by James Henry Leigh Hunt
Jenny kissed me when we met,
Jumping from the chair she sat in;
Time, you thief, who love to get
Sweets into your list, put that in!
Say I'm weary, say I'm sad,
Say that health and wealth have missed me,
Say I'm growing old, but add,
Jenny kissed me.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Everyday is a fork in the road.

     I made many mistakes and gone in the wrong direction a million times.  God, the Universe, my inner guidance or the angels (whoever you think)  has put things in my path to make me stop and wonder.  I have seen something on TV, on internet, or someone says something that feels so much more right than what I was doing.  I think every day is a fork in the road to decide, you want to change.  Why not?  Who cares what people think about you anyway?  Well, I always did.  But, when you take anyone wlse into consideration on your life's purpose, you dilute yourself.  If people really love you, and you make changes, they will still LOVE you.  I like to take inventory on what my goals, intentions, dreams are all the time. 

      As a mother of four, I obviously put their needs fist but feel like I have other things to do in my lifetime.  It's exciting to think, you can reinvent yourself, even if you're not Madonna.  I'm writing a book, even though I did not finish college.  I want to be a writer, teacher, life coach and who knows what else.  The first step towards any goal is aim your attitude high, and then when you are more hopeful possibilites, seem actually possible.  :)  Because I think bad emotions or feelings are like wormholes, once you start feeling bad you get sucked down and you find more and more and more negative.  So even if things are so crappy now, focus on something, like how yummy your cup of coffee is.  Sounds cheesy, but because of the law of attraction, you want to find happy wherever you can!  Listen to your inner chatter, they are forks in the road, and remember CHATTER. 

Choose
Happy
All
The
Time &
Energy (Everything)
Raises

All day long, your kids will challenge you, coworkers, whoever and they are giving you gifts to rexamine.  They put the mirror to show you where you're at.  If it's something you don't like choose a different road.  :)
I believe you can and I believe in you!

Friday, October 22, 2010

Energy Chamelon

Being there for people, as a mother, daughter, friend, sister, & wife, means being present and authentic.  I have been guilty of agreeing when I don't, giving too much of myself emotionally, not being REAL (Relaying Emotions Authentically in Love)   ;)   I did this because it was easier to be what someone else wanted than myself.  I could feel and sense what was expected or wanted of me and I'd be it.  If they were mad, I'd be mad with them.  This is what I mean, as an energy chamelon, and I think many women do this.  This does NOT help anyone.  If someone is feeling soemthing negative, feeling it with them will not help them.  You can sympathize without taking on their problems (drama).  Listening to them, holding it in your mind a better vision for them, and praying is much better.  Really the best thing to do when things are going bad for someone is to take their mind off the problem, because then when they go back to the problem, it is not merely as bad as it was.  Or they have fresh perspective on it at least.  Being yourself, and letting your true Light shine, helps everyone.  :)  Much Love to everyone!

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Change it up & find your happy place

Change happens around us constantly, we even change unconsciously over time.  I strive to make changes consciously and make myself aware of what is going on in my psyche.  I can change my thoughts and feelings, even if it seems automatic.  My feelings use to be because someone did, said, thought something. A different understanding is to realize if we let people get to us, we give away our power, and that's why we are unhappy.  Their actions(or words) + thoughts (or judgements) = feelings(emotion).  I use to think it was all tied together, if someone does something I don't like, I automatically think it's wrong or whatever judgment, and I feel negative emotion.  It may not feel like a choice sometimes when the kids don't listen or someone doesn't realize how cool I am.  LOL  Changing your thinking to what feels better will make you FEEL better, you are in charge of that part.  If I look for ways to be offended or mad, I can find them.  If I look for things to make me happy or grateful for, I can find them.  Change your perspective, take a breath, and find your happy.  Hoping all of you find their happy place!

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Balance

What should I be doing?  I should be cleaning...oh, wait...I should be exercising.  Now, I'm hungry?!?  I am on Chapter 14 of editing the book, I should work on that...well, the kids need attention.  This self-talk that goes on about the shoulds is not my friend.  It tells me there is something wrong with my body, my parenting, my book, my life and me.  Instead, let me see these patterns that come up, because we all have "stuff" and choose my thoughts more wisely.  When you take a minute and take the steering wheel of auto pilot, you say, hey I'm not going to chose those thoughts anymore.  I am going to think I am perfect, as I am imperefect.  LOL  Flipping the thoughts around to positive, because everyone has many good qualities but, we are not meant to be the same-so no comparing.  I ask for Divine Guidance everyday to clear out all the "junk" in my mind so the good can shine.  And...if you decide to watch movies all day, well, then maybe you needed to recharge.  Keeping life in balance and knowing when you need to replenish your energy makes everything better.  It's all good.  :) 

Friday, October 15, 2010

Relationships

Relationships are so many things, they help us grow among other things.  We think they can make us happy until they don't anymore.  The job of the other person, no matter who they are, is to make themselves happy. They are mirrors to teach us what we need to work on, what is out of balance, and our shadow side.  When we want to fight and our ego is raring to go, you gotta surrender for the sake of the greater good.  Because does it really matter sometimes?  Who did what, who is right.  Are they really going to understand when they are  are coming from a totally different perspective?  I can think I'm a nice person until someone does something I don't like.  Then I see I have anger issues, I go into victim mode, and the world seems negative.  This is the time to pray and ask for higher assistance to release the drama and unplug from the muck.  You feel empowered by anger but then you are drained of energy afterwards.  If you bring in Spirit (Divine Light of God or Universal Love) and look at it fresh, you will see, wow...the other person is right, in their eyes.  Even though they are still wrong.  :)