Do I have your attention? Are you afraid to talk about it? What about the word, erotic. Gasp! Is it too taboo? What about with your partner? We’re often taught that it’s actually forbidden to talk about. Sexuality is dangerous. It’s to be tamed and controlled, rather than celebrated and explored. That’s BS. YOU are a sexual being. We all are and sensuality is natural to us. And sex is beautiful. Sex is spiritual. It’s all about intention and connection.
I, for one, love talking about sex. So how is your sex life? Hmm…did
you just tense up, cause I struck a nerve? Are you wanting to feel more
sexy? Good way to feel more sexy is to have more sex. Not just have sex,
but like a whole new level of pleasure.
I’m talking a wild, free, and out-of-body kind of experience.
It can make you feel vulnerable. Or it can make you feel powerful.
In that raw, open, intense, vulnerable, powerful, sacredness, you can experience bliss beyond just the physical.
Do you think people who have been in a committed relationship can
have that, a passionate, mind-blowing sex life? HELL YEAH they can!
When Fifty Shades of Grey came out and everyone was going nuts over
it, I thought about how wild it was that so many women were reading it.
Like normal, don’t-look-like-a-freak-in-the-bedroom type. They were not
just reading it because a hot rich guy sweeps someone off their feet.
We’ve read that story a million times. They were reading for the sex.
Not just sex, but push you to your limits sex. And it made whips,
blindfolds, and spanking seem different, like the fact that this book
became so mainstream, maybe S & M was not so forbidden and taboo. It
opened up a world of possibilities.
But could you just ask your partner to try new things? Like kinky
things? Exploring your limits, finding the edge is thrilling. Talking
about your fantasies and what you’d like to do can open up a new level
of your relationship. It’s intimate and fun at the same time. Sex isn’t
just the connection to the other person, but also a connection to more
Your kinky level aside, enjoying more intimacy in your relationship
in the bedroom can create a deeper relationship as a whole. When you’re
really connecting on that physical level, with your heart also in it, as
you try to please each other, it becomes a sacred dance. It really can
be a soul connection, a truly spiritual experience. When you’re full of
love and intending to feel good, orgasms can be like a mystical,
transcendent, beyond all the time and space, cosmic moment where you’re
flooded with the feeling of all the love in the world. Your relationship
changes when your sex life does, it can even rekindle the romance from
long ago. Open your mind to the possibility.
As women, we can improve our relationships by having sex more often
with our partners. I can imagine all the eye rolling going on as you’re
reading this. But seriously, sex is for you too. I remember a time when
my older kids were younger, feeling like it was one more thing I had to
do, I didn’t have more to give. But sex is about giving and receiving.
If not, it’s not balanced. Tell your partner what you like, what you
want, what turns you on. Turning someone on is enjoyable for both, when
you love each other. If you’re so over the sex you’ve been having,
because you’ve been with the same partner for years…rev it up! Spice it
up. Become your own romance novel. Share a bottle of wine and write down
on pieces of paper what turns you on, what you’d like to try. Leave
love notes. Send racy texts. Flirt with them. Create your own passion.
Buy some lingerie. Even wearing sexy leopard underwear underneath your
clothes makes you feel sexier. Put on your favorite outfit, get all
dolled up, and dance to your favorite song all by yourself. Sing along
and get those good vibes going. When you’re feeling good, that’s an
avenue to feeling more sexy. Even exercise gets those endorphins going
and can lead to better sex. Get in touch with your body, however best
suits you. Remember that empowering, excited, high feeling you had when
you first seduced your lover, you can have it again no matter how long
you’ve been together.
Now please don’t get me wrong, this is not about letting a person
dominate you in your relationship or about being a people pleaser. I’m
not saying you have to watch sports or do only what they like, do the
traditional housewife/female thing, or any of that. You do what works
for you there. I’m talking about having a better relationship
emotionally and physically. No matter what you weigh, what your age, or
any of the superficial stuff, you can be the sexiest goddess around. Sex
appeal comes from within. Being confident is so sexy. Let yourself go
there. Let that inner sex kitten out to play and let yourself have the
best relationship you can. Love is on many levels, and the physical can
be oh-so fun!!!
Let yourself have fun, be playful, enjoy life, and have lots of
pleasure however you like. Whatever floats your boat, do that. And
sometimes reading about sex tips in books or magazines seem like they
aren’t for real people, so talk to your girlfriends about it. I’ve
gotten some ideas from hearing what works for them. But hey, if that
makes you feel too naughty and you’d rather be shy, just act out Fifty
Shades of Grey. All kidding aside, costumes or acting out a scenario,
playing roles sounds hilarious but it can be really awesome. Plus,
laughing during for play and sex is allowed. Wishing you a delicious
life is all ways. Remember you can be naughty and nice. Erotic is not
just for twenty somethings. Get your sexy on.
Originally posted on: http://www.2baware.net/growth/sex/