Next time you see me and I am uber confident and super sassy, you may think...She's so full of herself. Well, I hope I am giving off that vibe. It may seem crazy to think that but why should you be anything but...totally in love with yourself. Just because I think I'm hot, doesn't mean you're not. We can all be our super-sparkly-spectacular-special selves. I like to rock the sassy-spiritual-sexpot! Hey, that would be a great name for a boat the SSS~Jennylicious! Anyway, I am not one to compete. The only time I get competitive, is during a game of Scrabble. I don't know what it is about that game? I really mean competing with people in life, not in sports. Although if I was ever in competition, if they other person would be sad if they lost, I would rather them win. Usually when we see someone who is beautiful, thin, rich, fabulous, whatever we deem to be awesome...we measure ourselves to them. I know now that this is so silly. Some people ill think...we'll they look good but they suck at something else or aren't really happy inside. In actuality, it's about the fact that who they are has NOTHING to do with you. Look at how awesome you are. I can see how the Law of Attraction really works here, so let me take you back.
In my teens, I had an eating disorder and all that diet-hate your body-exercise-you aren't good enough crap for years after. If you are focused on what you "think" is wrong with you...you will find more. Like attracts like and so every day, I got deeper into it and hating myself more and more. Talking about the problem and my negative feelings after I got better was just focusing on the problem over and over. At one point, I told my Mom I wanted to stop therapy and move on with my life. That's what I did. I didn't love myself fully until years later but it was a process. Fast forward to now, I happened to weigh myself this morning and I was up a few pounds. My first reaction was, I gotta cut this out or exercise. I told my hubby I was up a few pounds and he said it was all that extra love. Isn't he so damn cute? Fro me, it is NEVER about what I weigh, it's about how I feel. I would have never believed when I was struggling in my teens that over twenty pounds more and I would REALLY love myself. Employing what I know, I looked over at the pink flower hair-clip my daughter bought me and declared it pink day. I put on a pink tank top to match and black shorts. I got the good vibes flowing and attracted more good thoughts. I did a lovely Pilates workout that was loving to my body. I had hot chocolate because that's what I wanted. I looked in the mirror and instead of looking at my tummy, thinking, it's not flat enough...I thought I could write a love note to my belly.
"Dear Beautiful Belly,
I apologize for those years of hating on you. We've shared so many yummy, delicious, and flavorful meals together. So many hugs, embraces, roller coasters, exercises, stretches, dancing, and many other fun activities...need I say more. ;) You have giving me fur miracles that have changed my life each time. McKayla made me a Mom and who I am today. Having Aidan, with a home birth, made me invent my own rules on parenting. Finn set me in a different direction and opened my heart up in a new way. Seamus is my little Buddha and I am a truly different person since become pregnant with him. I am blessed to be the Mommy of these beautiful souls, who continue to teach me. I don't care if you are not totally flat or if you have stretch marks. We'll call them zebra print. Each and every cell of you is perfect and a Divine part of God. So work it girl, bellydance if you like. I LOVE YOU!
Every women's magazine should teach us these things. LOVE yourself and the world will be better off. You uplift others by loving yourself, in the truest sense, not by putting anyone else down-that's ego. You are not meant to please others, get them to like you by lessening yourself, or get validation from outside yourself. You are your best cheerleader! Show others how to love themselves by being yourself, loving yourself and by living a happy positive life. If you speak well of yourself and others don't understand, that is on them. As women, we are conditioned to not even accept a compliment. Nest time some one gives you one, write it down in a journal. (I got that from my friend, Cheryl Jones) Really take it the compliment, say "Thank you," and smile. Do not deflect it with a, "I still need to lose weight" or some other dishonoring thing. Own it! Play with this, look for ways to be happier, why?
It's funny now to think about it but when people would lose weight and I would see them, I would explain why I didn't have the perfect body. My insecurity was blaring like a fire engine alarm. When I see others doing well now, I am so happy for them. And I know I rock. I am wonderfully fabulous and so are they and so are YOU! Real beauty shines from within. I compliment people all the time aand it really brightens thier day. Good vibes are free and so are compliments!!! LOVE YOURSELF AND HAVE FUN!!! Ask yourself, how much fun can I have this weekend? How much more can I love myself? Lovies to all!!!
(It's like Mexican hot chocolate)
Mug full of Fat free Organic milk
Handful of Ghiradelli 60% Cacao Dark chocolate chips
dash of cinnamon
dash of red pepper flakes
And always a pinch of love.
*Simmer until chocolate melts and its hot. Strain out the red pepper flakes and drink up. Enjoy!